Thanks for all the replies.
Well I certainly won't take less than 90K. And that is the number we have agreed is about where we both are comfy, the employer and I. I'd like a nice house, country-ish with a large lot, something middle class (which, from by Brit gf, I have learned really mean upper middle class in US terms), a nice car, say a Audi A4 Avant or similar, and plenty of disposable income. So as you can see single but shge will liklely move back to UK with me, somewhat reluctantly, and I have 2 dogs 2 cats.
Again, employer said 90K there is like 150K US, I doubt it.
John