what to do , i need some advice

i am trying to cut a long story short.

But Chris has been told by his highers in the USMC that he cant fly to the UK on his pre deployment leave. Because of the security risk in case anything happens again in London like it did in the summer, and he cant fly back to deploy with his unit.

Their solution for us to fly to him.

Well that is 2 more international air fairs, which we did not budjet for, only for one for him to come here.

Here is my dilema
Do we get into a little debt which we know we can pay off, and buy the tickets for me and the kids to fly to see him over Christmas and new year, or wait till he gets back which will be July/August 07.
My kids (10 & 4) are desperate to see him,  and are expecting to see him for xmas, and i am afraid what it will do to them if they dont get to see him soon. I know it is tearing me apart.

I found myself at my doctors appointment today breaking down in floods of tears at the thought that we wont be able to be with each other before he deploys. My doctor ended
up signing me off from work for 2 weeks because i am so depressed right now over everything.

I am not gonna take two weeks off because my work colleagues are so over stretched right now.

Ticket prices have already started to rise, i have tickets on hold till tomorrow night , and i cant speak with Chris right now because he is in the field , training, until Friday. I am afriad to make the wrong decision. And i know that if i let these tickets pass me by, we wont be going to see him at all.

Please help!

It it's London they are worried about why not see if he can fly into somewhere else? How about meeting him in Glasgow or Edinburgh? Or outside the UK, France or Belgium? Wouldn't cost you nearly as much to go there.

They wont let him leave the country at all.

Oh I see. I wouldn't like to be in your position, it's a difficult one.  I don't mean to be rude but I think you have said in previous posts that your kids have not met him in person yet, am I correct? Would it really be very difficult for them to wait a bit longer?

How much debt are we talking about if you decide to go at Xmas? Less than £1000? There is still a couple of months before then for you to save a bit up, how long will it take for you to pay off the rest? I guess these are all things you need to think about.

That's a harsh situation to be in. If it were me, I'd go, if the debt incurred wouldn't cause hardship to repay and there wasn't a lot of other debt. It's a long wait until next summer. 

i dont have alot of debt at all/ But we are trying to save for when we file for the visa but that is a year and a half away.

Sharon,

I would go for it, it sucks having to spend that much money.  Deployments are hard enough as it is especially not know what the communications are going to be.  Being able to spend those last couple of weeks together before he goes on tour is worth the money if you ask me.

Maureen

I don't know your situation too well, but if it were me, I'd go, especially since it is before a tour of duty.  Those are so hard on couples anyway, I'd just go.  But that's me.  Good luck with your decision!   

Sharon,

I would go for it, it sucks having to spend that much money.  Deployments are hard enough as it is especially not know what the communications are going to be.  Being able to spend those last couple of weeks together before he goes on tour is worth the money if you ask me.

Maureen

i just got off the phone with my brother, he just told me to cancel christmas and use all that cash to go and see Chris, which will make it financially easier.

That is what had me torn, the fact he would be deploying, and the need for us to be together so we were all in the right state of mind before he goes. It was hard the first time he was in Iraq, and i know now he will be on ship communications will be few and far between.

I don't know your situation too well, but if it were me, I'd go, especially since it is before a tour of duty.  Those are so hard on couples anyway, I'd just go.  But that's me.  Good luck with your decision!   

Yes the pre deployment training is hard enough right now, we have seen each other a total of 12 days since we married as he had to start training straight away for this upcoming deployment.

I think we are gonna go and i am just gonna have to really tighten the purse strings.

If it helps at all, if, when you go to apply for the visa, you can't show loads of savings, and your reason for that is this trip, the ECO will be sympathetic...I REALLY wouldn't let the visa application affect your decision.

Vicky

If it helps at all, if, when you go to apply for the visa, you can't show loads of savings, and your reason for that is this trip, the ECO will be sympathetic...I REALLY wouldn't let the visa application affect your decision.

Vicky

Thanks Vicki

We dont have tonnes of savings, but i have a good job, i teach fulltime, i have a morgage on my home, so we have a stable place to live. I dont struggle financially, and until my husband works i can support us all. I know i will be able to have some savings when the times comes. And hubby will too.

I have booked the tickets. i feel so much better. Abd it does not seem so hard to find the cash now i have sat down and looked through some finances, i will just have to watch the pennies.

I am glad you are feeling better and that you get to see him before he goes!  Take care!