I needa vent...

reeka can he try to get another job making more money? 

He's been lookin for another job...he's been at the same place since he was 16 and he's 25 now.

Were talking about saving...and he said is it okie if we plan for sept or oct. It's so freaking far away but whatever...i'll take it.

I'm putting away $50 from every paycheck and now I have $150 saved so far in my savings & he said he's going to start this coming pay check saving. So hopefully we'll both save and have WELL over what we need.

Good!  Sounds like you're on the right track but i can see how you'd be terribly disappointed.

You're taking this a lot better than i would. OY.  David wouldn't know what hit him!

I hope it works out that he can come in the fall then.  I know it's a long way off and not at all what you'd hoped, but maybe this will be a good lesson for him to learn. 

So after planning since like I got to England last May Adam has finally come to me and said he's "not sure if he can come". He's JUST now telling me this! 4 MONTHS before he's actually supposed to be here. After I've told everyone, after we've made plans to go to our friends wedding, after my family and friends are so excited to see him. He tells me today and says "I didn't want to tell you because I didn't want to make you upset"...WELL YES IM UPSET!...

The thing is he has no money. This I understand...but he's had almost a year to save and hasn't done so. He brought up the fact that when I came I only had to save for spending money not spending money and ticket money. I told him he didn't have to save for spending money because I get 3 paychecks that month. He said he wanted to bring his own money...which is understandable I'd feel bad taking peoples money too but I'm his g/f! I dun care!

My mom made the BRILLIANT idea to tell him I'll pay for the ticket so I'm going to go look up prices and see how much they are. I really cannot bear any more time apart it's too hard. He couldn't make it after Brit died and I just really need him here...

I doubt he'll go for the payin for his ticket thing. He's such a guy when it comes to these things but god...i'd rather pay for it and see him then let him pay for it and have to go an extra few months. I REALLY need him right now...blah

Thanks for "listening" 

Dump him.
Was in a similar situation with a LDR with a canadian(4 years ago)....he was too nervous to visit me cuz i was not happy with him on something (we had visited each other a few times prior...family and all), so I broke up with him cuz he didnt have the guts to get over himself and to visit me. He even went to the train station to board, but changed his mind and went back home instead(i think he was using my anger at him as an excuse). :-/Needless to say, I was very upset throughout the process, but in the end...got over it...dated a few more people, then found Jassen(and Im ever so grateful)....People need to make the time, make things possible, if they care enough for one another.

Thanks you guys. I talked to him on the phone last night. He's extremely apologetic and feels so bad for not telling me before now. We'll be saving...0o maybe we'll have enough to go to Vegas or something lol.

No...no lol I won't be dumping him. I don't think this situation calls for something so drastic. It's not like this is our first time meeting, we've already met and done that whole thing. I could understand if like we haven't met yet and he kept putting it off...then I'd agree with you but that's not what's going on. That would be a waste of 5 years...over something really stupid.

Reeeeka, that's too bad he might not be able to come but yeah, I can't see dumping him for that, you have too much together and you know he's there for you.  I finally ended things with the one I've posted about on here because of some of the reasons you already know about and it was either time or not the right time for us.  But I've met someone, also in England, and who knows where it will go but he's way more there for me than the other one was.  You know you and Adam have a future together so that's a good thing and hopefully you'll see each other soon.

Thanks you guys. I talked to him on the phone last night. He's extremely apologetic and feels so bad for not telling me before now. We'll be saving...0o maybe we'll have enough to go to Vegas or something lol.

No...no lol I won't be dumping him. I don't think this situation calls for something so drastic. It's not like this is our first time meeting, we've already met and done that whole thing. I could understand if like we haven't met yet and he kept putting it off...then I'd agree with you but that's not what's going on. That would be a waste of 5 years...over something really stupid.

well, all relationships of any sort are unique.

Good luck.

I'm pretty much giving up on it....If he wants to come see me he can do what he wants to do. I'm not asking about it or saying anything about it anymore. The thought of not knowing when i'll next see him breaks my heart and seriously makes me wonder if we'll ever be together. I don't want to push and obviously he doesn't have the money and I can't argue that. I don't want him going into debt to spend time with me. I couldn't ask that of him and feel horrible for knowing that he did for last may without telling me.

Unless you make a lot of money, both partners in a LDR HAVE to watch their money.  My husband and I both went without during our LDR, but it was what we had to do to be together.  If he doesn't have the money, he should start looking for another job.  I would want to know how much he gets paid and work out a money management chart and see how much he could be saving per month. 
You two barely see each other, so the "I don't have money" excuse wouldn't fly by me.  The fact that he seems like he doesn't want to own up to it is worse.

I hope you and he get things figured out.  I'm really sorry for you.  I know you were really looking forward to his visit and to have it even pushed back is difficult for you, especially with all you have going on!   

I'm so sorry to hear this!  I know how much you were looking forward to him visiting.  I hope it all works out and he can visit sooner rather than later.

Not to beat a dead horse, but money management is a huge part of any relationship.  Especially if you plan on spending your life with that person.  I know you mentioned that you were done speaking to him about this, but don't brush this off.  It's very important to the success of any relationship and I really don't think it matters how much money you have.  We had the money talk pretty early in our relationship.  I'm a spender, he's a saver...I have a tiny debt, he's debtless...but now I look at our future and I know my management of my money is important to him and to us.  Just my two cents.