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end of my LDR
« on: June 18, 2007, 02:23:28 AM »
Wow - how I never thought I'd have to post the end this way. Ever since my visit in April when we decided that I would be moving over the summer our relationship has rapidly deteriorated.  His visit in May was really nice and I had thought we had put all the fears to bed.  He admitted he was scared and confused and promised that we were going to sort it all out.  Well when he returned to the UK it all came apart again.

He called one night a few weeks back to tell me that he no longer saw a future with us.  He wasn't sure how or when it happend, but he didn't feel the same anymore.  He no longer wanted to spend his life with me.  Everytime I replay that conversation in my head my heart breaks all over.  :\\\'(

We haven't spoken in over two weeks.  Everyday I have a new emotion.  Today isn't such a good day.  Actually the whole weekend has been a bit tough. I know it's better to know all this now, but it doesn't lessen the grief.  The thought that I will never see him again is just unbearable right now.

I'm shocked at his behavior.  This person I thought I knew so well and wanted to spend my life with.  This person who made promises to me, to my face.  This person who made promises to my father when he asked his permission to marry me.  This person, who this past Easter told me, to my face, that he was committed to this relationship and to me body and soul.  The thought of his change of heart so rapidly is crushing.

I wanted to let you know since some of you may be wondering what was going on with my move.  I also wanted to thank you for all your support and advice.  It was a pleasure getting to know you a bit.  This site is a GODSEND.  I appreciated you all letting me in and being so friendly.  I learned so much about what I thought was going to be my future home and happy to say that I have met some amazing people here.

I apologize for the ramble and being so random.  I've been putting this off because I knew once I put it all in writing it would be very difficult and very real.
thanks for listening.
xo
meka
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #1 on: June 18, 2007, 02:26:59 AM »
(((hugs))) I'm so sorry things have turned out this way. Please don't disappear, we'll all miss you so much! I wish there was something I could say or do to help. Big hugs and good thoughts your way.
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #2 on: June 18, 2007, 02:32:24 AM »
(((((mekaw)))))

I'm so sorry to hear about this, I know how much you kept hoping to be able to work it out. I hope you still come around here!
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #3 on: June 18, 2007, 02:43:51 AM »
I'm so sorry, Meka.  Please, feel free to ramble all you need to - we're all happy to listen and lend a shoulder.  Hugs.
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #4 on: June 18, 2007, 04:20:56 AM »
Mekaw, I'm so sorry things turned out this way for you.  The hurt will eventually lessen, but you do need to grieve so you can heal.  I wish you the best and hope you take good care of yourself, especially during this situation.
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #5 on: June 18, 2007, 04:46:34 AM »
Whatever you do, don't do what women typically do, which is to blame themselves and wonder what's wrong with them. Remember that he had the fickle heart, not you. Be good to yourself. You'll meet someone worthy of you in the States, and your life will be much easier than it would be moving here. I know it in my gut. Take care of yourself, and try to stay busy so you won't brood so much.
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #6 on: June 18, 2007, 05:30:24 AM »
I'm so very sorry. I hope you are ok, and hope to see you around here.  :(
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #7 on: June 18, 2007, 05:33:34 AM »
I'm so sorry.    I went through something similar with my past LDR. It seemed like one day the guy wanted to marry me, and the next day it was over. But I had already fallen in love with England at that point so I've gone back alot anyways. Just take it one day at a time.   [smiley=hug.gif]
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #8 on: June 18, 2007, 05:45:37 AM »
I'm so sorry Meka.  I agree with Suzanne though.  That is good advice.

Big hugs!  I know that this site might be constant reminder of what you have lost but I hope you'll stick around - we like you!!!
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #9 on: June 18, 2007, 07:32:48 AM »
So sorry to hear this, Meka.
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #10 on: June 18, 2007, 08:08:39 AM »
I'm really sorry, Meka. But please stick around!!
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #11 on: June 18, 2007, 08:15:39 AM »
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #12 on: June 18, 2007, 08:21:04 AM »
I am so sorry, Meka.
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #13 on: June 18, 2007, 08:32:12 AM »
I'm so so sorry.  Be good to yourself, please.  And know that we'll miss you if you disappear from the site. 
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Re: end of my LDR
« Reply #14 on: June 18, 2007, 08:47:53 AM »
Oh no, so sorry to hear this.  Suzanne is right, you will get through this and move on to someone/something better. **hugs**  And please don't disappear from UK Yankee!

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