go against your DH?

Are you sure he even wants a dog? Sure sounds like he doesn't -- though sure would be nice if he just admitted it, if that's the case, instead of driving you nuts with lame excuses.

I had to hold out SEVEN years before my husband finally agreed to let me get my Samson.
Good luck!

he said he might reconsider a pug after we have kids, but he does want a dog, he's just not as anxious or excited as I am to get one right this second. I told him I won't hold out and hope that he changes his mind after kids, that I will get one at some point, with or without his "permission".

I suppose I will give in on the breed and accept another kind of dog, but it just doesn't hold the same feeling if it's not a pug.

Why not agree to adopt a mutt...part pug part something else. That way everyone's happy

Forgive me if this sounds bizarre, but why not discuss adopting an elderly pug?

A few friends of mine, who were all dog lovers and worked from home, joined a program where they took on elderly dogs or dogs with physical problems. They provided a loving home for old animals who owners died or dogs with arthritis and other mobility problems.

This may sound terrible, but maybe your husband would be more willing to adopt an animal he knows isn't going to be around for a decade.

I agree with the others who have mentioned your husband doesn't deserve to have an animal forced onto him against his will regardless of how wishy washy he sounds.

he said he might reconsider a pug after we have kids, but he does want a dog, he's just not as anxious or excited as I am to get one right this second. I told him I won't hold out and hope that he changes his mind after kids, that I will get one at some point, with or without his "permission".

Good luck on that

I suppose I will give in on the breed and accept another kind of dog, but it just doesn't hold the same feeling if it's not a pug.

All dogs need love, man!  How do you know another one won't melt your heart like you're expecting a pug to melt your husband's?

Good luck on that
All dogs need love, man!  How do you know another one won't melt your heart like you're expecting a pug to melt your husband's?

Besides, Andrea, if you can love this man as you do...I'm sure you'll find love in your heart for another kind of dog...

All dogs need love, man!  How do you know another one won't melt your heart like you're expecting a pug to melt your husband's?

Best post in this thread, I think.

Neither of you should have all the decision making power. But when making such a huge decision, it really needs to be a joint thing. You do have to be in complete agreement, or the poor dog will be the one who winds up suffering.

Exactly what I thought - we would never make a decision like this without consulting the other, we both have to be on board.

My husband always knew that we would have cats whether he wanted them or not. Now he loves them but he knew I would not live without cats in the house!

He wants a dog, too, but is in no rush.

I would love an alsation but my wife wants a bishon, she is worried about a bigger dog especially alsations as one went for our oldest when he was small (her siste rescued 2) both disliked children the boys love dogs, so at the moment we are sort of waiting, my wife grew up with her mom breeding spaniels and sorry cant spell it, small fluffy dogs   and she feels a small dog would be easier to clean up after as she will be the one who looks after it. But I am not so keen what to do.

I think we are going to wait and see what happens after may, we will get one but only if we can decide on the size.

Oh and lilly our cat is not to nice when she sees a dog she has a built in fear radar, and she goes mad. Two women to talk round.

I would love an alsation but my wife wants a bishon,

My family use to have a bishon, and that was the stupidest dog we've ever had. It never was fully house broken. My cocker and my sisters yorkie are both much smarter!

A pet is a family member. I wouldn't dream of adding one unilaterally.

Unless it was an emergency. Like, somebody about to toss a puppy into a shredder or something. But you'd have to have a very convincing backstory for that one.

Then he pulls the financial card, which in my opinion, can be pulled for anything whenever you are trying to pay off debt, yet he can go and spend money on weekends out etc...

Dogs can be VERY expensive, especially when they need emergency care or get ill (cancer, etc..).

I have to agree with the others and say its not fair to force your husband into a huge responsibility that should be a joint decision.