So, not to get really defensive or anything, but since there wasn't anything in place or procedures for this and I didn't send in proof from 4 years ago, I'm out of luck? It was in my spousal letter and with the marriage certificate and really to me, you're not married if you aren't living together anyways. I get that people can't always live together for some reason or another. But for a genuine marriage over 5 years, always lived together, definitely have the proof to show it, we can't prove that afterwards?