Changed date of Spouse Visa

OK, so instead of getting our visa after the wedding, I've convinced R to go on the Thursday before.  I figure I will be thinking more about the visa then the wedding and I don't want to do that!  So now, my heart is in my gut and I'm actually more nervous then before.  I know it will be easy as pie, but until I hear R say, honey I have all my paperwork, I can't relax!  He does not have the letter from his office yet and though I know he can get one in five minutes, I just don't know!!!  I think he might divorce me before we even have the wedding   I dated a really unreliable guy once and so I am jaded by this!  I know I should not feel this way, but, well R did forget some stuff I asked him for when he came over last and I asked about a hundred times.  He just gets so annoyed with me, and he has a reason too, but I have a reason too, like my whole life!  OK, done ranting now.  Don't feel much better, but at least I got it all out now.  Thank you and goodnight!

   Print out a list of everything you need for the visa and put an R by the things Richard needs to provide and an S by the things you need to provide.  Check them off as you get them.  That way you'll have a visual reminder and record of what you have and what you need.  I found that to be pretty helpful.  I'm sure he's not going to mess up and forget something for the visa - he wants you to continue living with him!   

Glad you're going to do the visa before the wedding - will ease your mind a lot!

OK, so instead of getting our visa after the wedding, I've convinced R to go on the Thursday before.  I figure I will be thinking more about the visa then the wedding and I don't want to do that!  So now, my heart is in my gut and I'm actually more nervous then before.  I know it will be easy as pie, but until I hear R say, honey I have all my paperwork, I can't relax!  He does not have the letter from his office yet and though I know he can get one in five minutes, I just don't know!!!  I think he might divorce me before we even have the wedding   I dated a really unreliable guy once and so I am jaded by this!  I know I should not feel this way, but, well R did forget some stuff I asked him for when he came over last and I asked about a hundred times.  He just gets so annoyed with me, and he has a reason too, but I have a reason too, like my whole life!  OK, done ranting now.  Don't feel much better, but at least I got it all out now.  Thank you and goodnight!

i have to apologise in advance for my cluelessness! are you going to be applying for the fiance visa now instead of the spouse visa? - 
while we were waiting from the letter from Sean's job, i was asking him daily about it. 'where's the letter?' . . . . -  once you have your visa and the stress of the wedding and everything else has evaporated, hopefully you two will both forget about how stressed this time is 'right now'... (Sean got plenty annoyed with me while we were getting paperwork together, because i kept writing and re-writing the lists of documents we needed..)

as lola mentioned, printing the list of required documents is a good idea. i did that too (along with my handwritten ones), and you can always make notes on the list of additional documents that you want to bring along (i.e.- the pictures you mentioned in your other post.)

rant all you like... the people here are lovely and patient with us while we have our pre-visa application jitters

If I recall correctly, Stacey is already legally married; right?

If I recall correctly, Stacey is already legally married; right?

Yes.  They got married in England and she's been living here since then...now they're going back to the States for Wedding II (The American Version) and to get her spousal visa.  :-)  It does get confusing sometimes--people who are married wanting visas, people who aren't married wanting visas, people who aren't engaged but might want visas in the future...I need to start keeping a list of everybody's stories so I don't get confused!   

GOOD LUCK Stacey!!!!!! Please keep us updated! 

LOL!  Sorry, I slept late this morning after falling asleep 3am NY time, AGAIN.  But yes, we were married already in January to make it legal and so we didn't have to wait for the Marriage license that I hear takes 15 days to get and Richard as it is on a deadline at work.  So, I will take your advice, though I already have all my stuff we need.  Except a letter of recommendation from a former employee, do I really need this?  I feel funny asking.  Not sure why.  I have my CV though, oh and do I need to show job posts I've applied too as well?  I have done this on-line a bit.

Don't worry about the letter from your former employer.  I didn't have one and it wasn't asked for. The list of stuff on the site (CV, copies of degrees, etc.) is so that you can prove that you're preparing to work in the UK.  I had copies of my CV, degrees, teaching license, and some emails I'd sent to various UK organizations asking how my qualifications transferred over here.  They didn't ask for those either.  :-)

Thank you!  Guess what?  Richard has the letter from his job!  I just burst into tears when he told and I feel so much better!  I told him how I felt and that I was getting sick about it and he said he had it all!  just to be sure, he only needs his passport, a letter from employee, mortgage papers and bank statements right?  Sorry, just being careful.

Yep...those were the only things my Richard had to show.  So glad he got the letter done - it's frustrating enough without having to nag your husband about a dumb letter! 

Don't worry about the visa...you're already married.  You just have to show that Richard can support you, that you have somewhere to live, and that you're both who you say you are.  Things will be fine!   

Yep...those were the only things my Richard had to show.  So glad he got the letter done - it's frustrating enough without having to nag your husband about a dumb letter! 

Don't worry about the visa...you're already married.  You just have to show that Richard can support you, that you have somewhere to live, and that you're both who you say you are.  Things will be fine!   

Thanks!  You know I do feel so much better and Richard said the letter has what it needs to say, so it's all good.  He just got a new Mortgage too, I wonder if he put me on there, hmmm should ask, that would look even better!  he had to have 4 months of bank statements for the mortgage so he has that too!  So we are set.  Woohoo.  now if my neck would just stop hurting, I keep all my stress there and with the wedding too it's like a knot!!!

Deep breathes...take deep breathes!  Roll your head to the right & hold it for a short count...then to the left...visualize yourself with your visa already secured and you taking your vows in the US...picture your happiness and realize that you have done what you could do, that you are prepared and that you are doing this for happiness!  Congrats & have a great US wedding!

Deep breathes...take deep breathes!  Roll your head to the right & hold it for a short count...then to the left...visualize yourself with your visa already secured and you taking your vows in the US...picture your happiness and realize that you have done what you could do, that you are prepared and that you are doing this for happiness!  Congrats & have a great US wedding!

You are the best Liane!  Thanks   Oh and so cool, The University of Surrey just posted a Fundraising job!!!!  I'm so excited as that is my profession!!!

Yay Stacey!  Its good to hear its all working out.  I like what onetiger said.  Hope you don't mind onetiger, but I'm going to use that when I go for my Visa 'visualize yourself with your visa already secured...' Positive thinking...right?

Go for it Kas!  I share my wisdom with all....it's what we therapists do (at least I do!).