hello, this is seans partner.....well what happened was, got on the home office website and found out about unmarried partners....couldn't understand how you went about getting the proper time in for applying for that when you could only be in the uk for 6months...so went to the citizens advice bureu...they didn't know so put me in touch with a lawyer who is supposed to be an expert in immigration matters....she is the one who told me to travel in and out and how to do it....she sent me a letter on the matter also....so when i went to holland, i had that letter with me and she also said that i had to have a letter from sean stating that he was supporting me and proof of his income...so i did all that. As you know, was stopped. Questioned for over 2hrs and luggage searched etc.....she said she was satisfied that the only crime i had committed was to have bad advice....she made a copy of the lawyers letter and put it in the file....then she told me that there were OTHER visa i could have applied for instead of unmarried partner and that the consulate would tell me what they were(well they haven't)....she also said they were not going to deport me, but were going to let me in with a paper that said i was given temporary leave but subject to being picked up and set a date for an interview with me in two weeks time and that i was to bring anything with me to that meeting that had my name and seans address on it, to prove i was living with him......so i did that.....and she said i still didn't meet the requirements of unmarried partner, and she couldn't stamp a visitors stamp because i didnt leave the country the first time....that even though i did leave the country and go to paris and then holland, to them, they considered it that i didn't leave!!! I really don't understand that. But anyway, she said that she is convinced that i did it without malice, that i THOUGHT i was doing it legally(because of the letter from the lawyer)and that when i returned to the states, and my divorce was final, i was to apply for a fincee visa and that since my file will show that i was honest and above board and that my story had been investigated and checked out fine, i would have no problem getting the fincee visa....she also said there were other visa's i could apply for and that the consulate would tell me what they are(well they haven't). So she then gave me ANOTHER paper for temporary leave liable to be detained like the first one, to give me ample time to make flight arrangements(2weeks). They still kept my passport......so on the day that i left belfast....the man who gave me my passport told me he had reviewed my file (now i didn't ask him anything, he just offered this information when giving me my passport)he said now please don't worry, i have looked it over and there is nothing in there to prevent you coming back....when you apply for a visa, they will see you have been honest and your story checked out and you will have no problem getting a visa....that is what he said.....well they tell me the only visa option is a fincee or work visa.....sean feels like we are in a box and being pushed into having to get married within 6months and what we are wanting to find out is ..... isn't there a different visa option for me? We can't find out. I must be asking the wrong questions or the wrong person or something.....each time i call they ask the case number and the first thing they ask me is, is your divorce final yet? So since it isn't, (it has been over a year trying to get that done) shouldn't there be something else we can do in the meantime? Also, i have searched and searched the home office web site and can't find ONE THING about a residence visa.....not one reference......the lady at the airport is the one who mentioned that. She said it would only be good until my divorce. Which i never understood how they would know when it was final anyway til i showed them my papers saying so.....but that is where that came from...she also told me that why she wouldn't stamp me a visitors visa is because even though she feels I was only doing what i thought was legal, since i didn't know WHEN my divorce was final, she was afraid if it wasn't final in that 6months, that i would just go to paris again even though i said i wouldn't(can't blame her there really) but then she said that if i knew WHEN my divorce would be final, she would have stamped my passport for that time frame....which i found odd....if she was saying she would have stamped it in those conditions, i wish she would have just stamped it for 2months or something so that i would at least have a clear passport with no blemish....but i didnt' say that to her of course.....so that is where it stands and both sean and i are very confused about the whole matter...hope someone knows something. Thanks