It's finally time.....

Hey everyone,

I just finished reading the post on here titled "Heartbroken" and felt that it's finally time to say that the relationship I had hoped for didn't work out either.  Some already know that I've been on this forum for a while when I was involved in my first "online relationship" that lasted about two years but didn't go anywhere.  I had never planned on going through that again because it is difficult and I am very happy for the ones who it did work out for and got to be with someone they really love despite the odds.  Well, a lot of you know that I did let myself get involved again with someone else in the UK.  He was unexpected, a really good guy, and it felt right.  We've known each other almost two years now and he changed his mind somewhere along the way, but for reasons I understand.  It happened earlier this year but there's never really been a right time for me to come on here and say it.  It's still hard even now but I know I've needed to get it out so I can emotionally move on from it.  I guess what prompted me today was that I hear how hurt and angry some are when their relationships have ended, and justifiably so in most cases.  But as hurt as I was too, and knowing that something I wanted so much wasn't going to happen, I have no regrets.  I was fortunate to have had this experience with someone that I still think is truly a good guy.  I never once thought to get rid of things he's given me, they're reminders of a special time in my life.  We talk all the time and still send each other gifts and I guess I'm just grateful that I did have this unique experience with someone who was, and still is. one of my closest friends.   We still want to visit each other and who knows if things will change in the future, but he will always be someone very special in my life. 

I just want to say thanks to everyone who has give me advice, encouragement and support throughout the years.  There are a lot of really good people on here and I wish you all much happiness in your lives. 

You sound really together and peaceful about it....still I'd like to give you a hug and wish you all the best and also wish you love again when you are ready.   

My take....
It aint over till it is over.

I was wondering how you were doing when I saw your sig. I'm glad you're feeling better about it.

You sound really together and peaceful about it....still I'd like to give you a hug and wish you all the best and also wish you love again when you are ready.  

Thanks for the nice wishes, Andee, and I'll take the hug 

My take....
It aint over till it is over.

I like your outlook.  Yeah, I guess you never know what will happen tomorrow....

Thanks for the nice wishes, Andee, and I'll take the hug 

Anytime--I'm good at hugs. 

I'm sorry things didn't work out, I was hoping when I saw this that you meant it was time to meet in person.  You seem like a nice person, and I hope whatever it means to you, that you find your happy ending.

Aww Kimmy!!

*hugs* I'm sorry that it didn't work out for you both. Time heals all wounds though    you know...

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Aww Kimmy!!

*hugs* I'm sorry that it didn't work out for you both. Time heals all wounds though    you know...

msg me on myspace if you need someone to talk too

Thanks, Ericka...I will remember that.  I hope things are good with you.

I'm sorry things didn't work out, I was hoping when I saw this that you meant it was time to meet in person.  You seem like a nice person, and I hope whatever it means to you, that you find your happy ending.

Thank you, and I hope everything is still working out for you.   

it sounds like you are really sensible about the whole situation, but as someone else said, you never know what could happen in the future, so keep your chin up!!! 

I am glad you're positive about it.  It says a lot about you and your ex.  Staying friends after a break up is hard but can be done.

  My husband and I broke up a few times for short periods (distance, being young, lots of factors), the last was the worst, last November we had tickets booked he was planning on moving here and working it out with his job for February and really needed to see eachother. We didn't talk for a while and we both thought it was the end. I texted him for his birthday and we started talking from there. I had a huge decision to make on whether or not to get on a plane to the UK for two weeks or stay home and truly end it. I ended up coming over and everything sorted itself out.  Distance can be so hard and play tricks, but in the end we both loved each other so much and really wanted to be together, not apart.

If you're meant to be together you will
I hope things are well on your end,
x

Thanks for that, guys.  And Steph, it's good knowing that your situation worked out in the end.  I believe in the whole meant to be thing, too....

 I know all this happened a while ago...but I just wanted to say I really admire how you dealt with it all (from what I read). My first online relationship (and only one) ended badly. I couldn't deal with him being so far away. I was a single mom...just all in all, a bad time period for me.
 

... I believe in the whole meant to be thing, too....

 But we started talking again almost three years later and that was actually perfect for us. We both had had time to grow up a bit more and deal with our own issues. Now we are married, and have a gorgeous 6 month old daughter-the funny looking one as my profile pic I think back on all we missed by not being together that whole time, but then again I also know that there is a good chance(because of where I was in my life at that time) that we probably wouldn't of still been together. I hope everything works out for you hun!
 ~Ange

It's funny how the men I've met, with a few exceptions, have been wimps about long distance dating.  They are too needy or maybe just want to have steady sex close by.  I don't dwell on it, telling myself that if it was meant to be, nothing would have stopped it.  As we can see on this and other boards, that is true.

It's tough, though.  At one point I hated all British men.   Then I realized that it wasn't the country, it was just those few guys who had various problems -- emotional or financial.  I've been accused of being a golddigger when all I wanted was to ascertain  that the man could afford a lot of plane tickets!  How else would we get together? Then there are those who are looking for a vacation guide in America.  I don't mind those, because they pay for everything when they are here! 

The alternative is to do nothing and get nothing. Onward and upward!  Dating is tough no matter where you are.

I know all this happened a while ago...but I just wanted to say I really admire how you dealt with it all (from what I read). My first online relationship (and only one) ended badly. I couldn't deal with him being so far away. I was a single mom...just all in all, a bad time period for me.
  
 But we started talking again almost three years later and that was actually perfect for us. We both had had time to grow up a bit more and deal with our own issues. Now we are married, and have a gorgeous 6 month old daughter-the funny looking one as my profile pic I think back on all we missed by not being together that whole time, but then again I also know that there is a good chance(because of where I was in my life at that time) that we probably wouldn't of still been together. I hope everything works out for you hun!
 ~Ange

Thanks, Ange, for all of that.  I was going through a lot of hard things during most of the time with him, and so was he.  I think it brought us closer together in a shorter time but the timing of it all, like you mentioned, also played a part.  I'm still getting my life together and so is he.   I've tried to handle it all in the best way because of how I still feel about him and I can't imagine not being in each others' lives in some way.  But, I admit that it has been difficult off and on so I just have to distance myself at times.  I'm glad yours had a happy ending....and your daughter is beautiful!