I watch too many romantic movies!

Awww, Carey.  I don't blame you for having a mini panic attack over Mirra.  She's your baby, TOTALLY understandable.  Buuuutttt....I'm sure everything will be fine, and you've got plenty of time to take care of things.  

Oh, and to answer your question, Ian will be here for 3 weeks.  HOPEFULLY I'll get to go back with him, and I know visas are processing really fast right now.  Just hope it keeps up in the beginning of the spring.   Tonight we were discussing what I should do about work, because he keeps thinking that if my visa application is denied or takes too long, then I'll be without a job.  He's starting to get paranoid, I think.  Because he asked me if I was 100% sure about moving in an email the other night.  Going to have to have a deep conversation with him tomorrow about these things because tonight he was just too tired.

And weekend plans?  Well, none really.  My best friend came by tonight for a little while.  Our friend Steph was supposed to come tonight but she didn't feel well, so is coming over tomorrow night.  I need to go to the bank tomorrow to get my bank statements AGAIN so I can use them as supporting documents, and I also want to get my photos for my application tomorrow.  Sunday I MAY have to work because State might be coming in for our yearly evaluation.  And we have residents that have scabies at work....lovely, eh?

So how was everyone's Friday???  Usual?  And Becca, sorry Tim is working odd hours this weekend and going to miss the most beautiful parts of the day.

Beth, good luck with that 10k tomorrow!  I applaud you, lady!

thanks for the positive replies! my boyfriend wants to buy a house soon, so the length of my stay depends on that. but he was saying that if he does get the house then i would be welcome to stay with him as long as i wanted to and he would support me. i told him that i would feel bad because i couldn't work in the uk again and would be very limited in what i could contribute to living expenses, but he said he didn't care about that, he just wants me to be there with him and i could decorate the house for him.

even if that plan doesn't work out and i only stay for a few weeks, i really appreciate his offer. but if it does work out, i would be able to leave home for a long period of time again. i lost my job back in january and haven't been able to find anything else yet. anything i do get will more than likely be minimum wage/retail/restaurant so i wouldn't have a problem quitting.

I posted something in my LJ today as a sort of deliberate zing at those people I mentioned:

Any friends I've met through the various fandoms know how to find me - either they are on my LJ, facebook, or have my email address or phone number. Any friend who decides they don't want to be friends with me because I'm going to be less active in fandom isn't really worth my time as a friend, anyway. Actually, any friend who doesn't understand that you can have changing priorities in life isn't worth my time as a friend.

{snip}

I guess I also need to clean up the kitchen from making Dinner and put away leftovers. Let me rephrase that. I guess I should clean up the kitchen and put away leftovers. I don't have to do it, but I see no reason why I shouldn't since I made the mess making dinner (another thing I didn't have to do for Tim, but wanted to). Same with packing a meal for him to take to work, helping with cleaning around the house, and occasionally I'll even do a load of laundry for him. Because, really, if you're going to be a long-term guest in someone's house or live with them, it's only polite to pitch in where you can. I don't think either of us actually consider me a guest here anymore. We both consider me to be living here (it's just unfortunate that I will have to leave for a bit eventually). Like I mentioned about a month ago, I consider this to be my home.

I almost feel like I'm beginning to turn into a hermit - odd, when I really am a social creature. But, I think I'm doing a bit more growing and deciding what's important to me. Like I said above, it's about changing priorities in life. Everyone has to do it at some point in their life, and probably will do it several times. Right now, it's important for me to have time for myself, and time for Tim (and our families). I have such a backlog of writing I need to get through, but what happens when I sit at my laptop? I get online, check boards, LJ, facebook, etc and then I don't write. And considering I get paid most of the time when I write, it's kind of important that I do it!

Will I lose friends along the way? Probably, but you know what? I don't think it even bothers me. The people who will stick by me are the people who matter, anyway.

Think they'll get the point? 

I posted something in my LJ today as a sort of deliberate zing at those people I mentioned:

Quote
Any friends I've met through the various fandoms know how to find me - either they are on my LJ, facebook, or have my email address or phone number. Any friend who decides they don't want to be friends with me because I'm going to be less active in fandom isn't really worth my time as a friend, anyway. Actually, any friend who doesn't understand that you can have changing priorities in life isn't worth my time as a friend.

{snip}

I guess I also need to clean up the kitchen from making Dinner and put away leftovers. Let me rephrase that. I guess I should clean up the kitchen and put away leftovers. I don't have to do it, but I see no reason why I shouldn't since I made the mess making dinner (another thing I didn't have to do for Tim, but wanted to). Same with packing a meal for him to take to work, helping with cleaning around the house, and occasionally I'll even do a load of laundry for him. Because, really, if you're going to be a long-term guest in someone's house or live with them, it's only polite to pitch in where you can. I don't think either of us actually consider me a guest here anymore. We both consider me to be living here (it's just unfortunate that I will have to leave for a bit eventually). Like I mentioned about a month ago, I consider this to be my home.

I almost feel like I'm beginning to turn into a hermit - odd, when I really am a social creature. But, I think I'm doing a bit more growing and deciding what's important to me. Like I said above, it's about changing priorities in life. Everyone has to do it at some point in their life, and probably will do it several times. Right now, it's important for me to have time for myself, and time for Tim (and our families). I have such a backlog of writing I need to get through, but what happens when I sit at my laptop? I get online, check boards, LJ, facebook, etc and then I don't write. And considering I get paid most of the time when I write, it's kind of important that I do it!

Will I lose friends along the way? Probably, but you know what? I don't think it even bothers me. The people who will stick by me are the people who matter, anyway.


Think they'll get the point? 

I totally agree with what you wrote.    my theory is if you lose some friends then they really weren't your friends. I had to learn that myself when I moved to the UK to be with my Fiance at the time Husband now.

I totally agree with what you wrote.    my theory is if you lose some friends then they really weren't your friends. I had to learn that myself when I moved to the UK to be with my Fiance at the time Husband now.

Yeah, and at this point, it's really just a waiting game between going back home and deciding if we want to apply for a fiancee visa or wait and get married in the US.  Tim and I both know it's going to happen, we just haven't worked out the "when"s yet.

I was just really getting annoyed with the comments about how we were "playing house" because we're not married and I don't legally live with him yet.  I was stewing over it for a few days, and while I decided I was no longer going ot actively be friends with those people, they do still read my LJ.  I'm hoping they can read between the lines and see what I'm saying, but my luck it will go over their heads OR they'll take it the wrong way and start badgering me about things again.  But..yeah, I'm more than willing to cut two people out of my life if it means more peaceful days like today!

Tim and I worked out in the garden all day today and it was really enjoyable...I'm trying to convince him to plant some veg, and he said "sure, help me plant the seeds, then you have to go home for 6 months while I take care of them". heh.

Hi ladies!

I've been reading every day, I'm just so busy right now with school and stuff!

My boyfriend will be landing on Tuesday afternoon.  I'm so excited/stressed out for him to get here.  I'll be keeping him in my dorm room for three nights, which is VERY frowned upon.  I'm really excited to have him here with me, but at the same time...it's midterms week, and it's going to be really stressful keeping him hidden for three days.

But anyway.  I'm glad he's coming and hopefully my spring break will be as lovely this year as it was last year (minus him getting the flu) 

Good to see everyone's doing (relatively) well!

Oohh....Brittany!  Good luck with midterms, and have fun with your man.   What are your plans together?

Becca, I agree with your LJ post there.  Priorities change when you're in a relationship, ESPECIALLY a LDR.  A lot of my friends didn't understand things, and sometimes still don't.  And you're right, the ones that don't understand aren't really true friends.  If you need a vent, we're here for ya!

How's that table treatin' ya, Carey?   Oh, and any more news/plans on the whole visa/trip in May front?

And Beth!  Remember what I told you last night...lol.  If you need me, let me know.   And good luck with that run later on.  Hope you're feeling better though!

Shugga and digitalsea, hello there!

Jamie needs to update us, and I have NO CLUE what Josy is up to..lol.  I didn't text her last week, but probably will today JUST to say hi or something.

Alright, must get ready for work here yet again.  Bah.  Only 5 more weeks until Ian and I get hitched!

Shugga and digitalsea, hello there!

Alright, must get ready for work here yet again.  Bah.  Only 5 more weeks until Ian and I get hitched!

Hi    & Congrats on your upcoming wedding 

LOL "I'll be keeping him in my dorm room".   Scandalous!  Enjoy your time together Brittany! How long will he be here?

Re: all this crap about friends - I am beginning to understand this more and more and feel for you Becca.  I actually had someone ask me yesterday "are you sure that you just dont really want this to be THE ONE and are fooling yourself about some things?" ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?  If I wanted to fool myself into a happy relationship, would I pick one like this!?  I've just decided to stop talking to them about our plans unless they ask, which will most likely be very rarely, so they might just be surprised when I move

The table is lovely (my dad gave me his parent's kitchen table that has been hidden in his basement for years, and its replaced my cardtable kitchen table). Now I'm grown up since I have a real wood table!
No more real news on the visa or wedding front, but still planning on being there by December and I am definitely taking the trip in May (seems SO far away!)

Beth, how is the toe??  Did you actually run with that injury?  You are an inspiration

Hello ladies!

Is it just me or did this weekend fly by?! Geez. I feel like it was JUST Friday! Oh well, at least we're already half way through Monday! Woo! lol (I'm trying to see the glass half full here!)

The toe is fine. It just looks ugly. Luckily it didn't give me any trouble at the race. The race went great, too! I had so much fun meeting up with some runner friends and hitting the IHOP after. I'll be writing a race report on my running blog this week when I get a moment (you can link to it from my profile on my 365 blog). I'll be posting some photos a friend took, including my very first decent finishing photo!! I just have to get the picture from him first!

Carey- exciting about the new table. I love new furniture! I'm kind of sad at having to leave some of my favorite things behind once I hopefully move over, though....

Becca, I think they will get your point! You are right- either you are my friend or not. Friends support each other. If you don't support me in my biggest dream, then you aren't a real friend! Hope things settle for you (and for you, too, Carey). It doesn't help to have people around you making it tougher than it already is!

Thanks again, Patty... I went to bed and it was still active. Who knows. Everything was as I said it would be this morning, too. Don't worry though, I'm resisting temptation!

Brittany! How exciting that your man will be here soon! Hiding him in your dorm is hilarious! I swear I won't tell!

Josy? Chi_Chi? You alright?

Well, back to class! Hope you have a wonderful week!!

Re: all this crap about friends - I am beginning to understand this more and more and feel for you Becca.  I actually had someone ask me yesterday "are you sure that you just dont really want this to be THE ONE and are fooling yourself about some things?" ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?  If I wanted to fool myself into a happy relationship, would I pick one like this!?  I've just decided to stop talking to them about our plans unless they ask, which will most likely be very rarely, so they might just be surprised when I move

LOL.  All of a sudden, you won't be at work and someone will call your mobile. "Uh, yeah. I moved to England" hehehehe I love it!

*sighs*  Atleast we have each other.

But what I don't get is, haven't your friends given things up and made sacrifices and priority changes in regards to their relationships or ANYTHING in life? 

Like, my best friend was furious when I first told her about Ian.  She CLAIMS it's because our other friend knew about him first, but I think (and I told her this) since I was so reliable and whatnot, and I was the last piece to her old, single life, she didn't want to lose me.  AND, she thought that the reason why I was with Ian was because I didn't want to be alone anymore and that I felt like a 3rd wheel with her and her husband.  Hello?!  If I didn't want to feel alone I wouldn't have dated Ian.....remember, he lives in England?!!?!?!  So I know where you're coming from when your friends are saying these things, Carey.

Whatever.  I will tell ya this though, Carey....they might try and suck as much time out of you as they can before you move.  That's what people are trying to do now with me.  Just remember where your priorities are (and I'm sure you do) and do what you need to do so YOU can be happy.  *hugs*

Same with you, Becca.  Do what feels right for you.

Well......and now that we know you're going to be in England in May, Carey...maybe the four of us should meet up (you, David, Ian and I??).  Think about it.

Beth, did you order that book?  I hope someone is going to be with us so they can take the millions of "odd Beatles sites" pictures....lol.

K, gonna go do some work here (yes, I brought it home).

And thank you, Shugga, for your kind words!

*sighs*  Atleast we have each other.

But what I don't get is, haven't your friends given things up and made sacrifices and priority changes in regards to their relationships or ANYTHING in life? 

you know...with the two friends in particular I've been talking about, I doubt it.

Most of my friends are supportive....hell, my cousin asked me in an email when I was moving!  But there are a few who just can't seem to deal with it.

Whatever.  I will tell ya this though, Carey....they might try and suck as much time out of you as they can before you move.  That's what people are trying to do now with me.  Just remember where your priorities are (and I'm sure you do) and do what you need to do so YOU can be happy.  *hugs*

Oh god, I know how that feels. I moved to Michigan in 2006 and my friends all acted likei t was the end of the world and telling me I "had" to see them before I left. It drove me nuts, because I just wanted to spend time with my mom and felt like my friends wanted to be more important than my family!



In other news...the entire village had a power outage that lasted about 10 minutes around 2330.  I'm ALONE.  OMG I was so freaked out. Thankfully, Tim's sister texted me to see if I was ok or needed her to come over with candles and a torch (Tim's parents and sister live around the corner)!  But now I have my phone stuck in my bra (in case I'm in the toilet if it goes off again), and I have a tote bag with the torch, box of matches, a candle for the bedroom, the key to the front door, and my ipod.  Just in case it goes again, I can use my mobile to find the tote and then have everything I need to feel safe.  The iPod is loaded with some doctor who, so if it goes out, I can watch a few episodes to entertain myself. 

And now I'm too wound up to sleep.  ARGH. 

Quick note and update...I will write more later...Jason and I just got approved for our Visitor Visa woohoo I leave on Saturday I can't wait ......

I hope you are all doing well and I will talk to you later...if you are my friend on facebook and you write me please don't say anything on facebook on my wall..I am going to shock my friends in England by just showing up next week and just surprising them....

Quick note and update...I will write more later...Jason and I just got approved for our Visitor Visa woohoo I leave on Saturday I can't wait ......

I hope you are all doing well and I will talk to you later...if you are my friend on facebook and you write me please don't say anything on facebook on my wall..I am going to shock my friends in England by just showing up next week and just surprising them....

Woooooohoooo! How long are you gonna stay?? I'm so excited for you!!