Hello all. Brittany, good to
see hear from read from you again!
I'm sorry that you miss your boyfriend. May isn't so far off though. And you'll click back in to your old routines in time. That's one of the worste parts about an LDR I think. Your emotions get put through the ringer from all the getting used to being together, then getting used to being alone, etc. etc.
I never had any friends that were openly mean to my DH when we were dating, but I did grow apart from most of them I think because they just couldn't understand and our worlds and priorities became totally different. It seems to me though that a friend that can't be happy and supportive isn't a true friend and really only cares about themselves. And that benefits you in no way. Just my opinion though.
So last night I went to my friends house and made a delish dinner that was received very well. During dinner, I received a call (which I did not answer but they left a message) from the courier I sent my app to. I was FaREAKING out. She left this message (and she's a little difficult to understand due to her accent, so I couldn't hear it all clearly) and she said that she had gone through my app and was concerned about a couple things. 1. that we didn't show savings in either of our accounts (which is NOT true! It's not a lot, but it's there, and it's explained, and it's highlighted)... and then went on to say something about our staying with his parents until we can get settled, and my finding a job, etc. and also 2. that we did not have any affidavits or letter from friends or family members explaining the relationship...?!?!?! Ok. On that one, I have never even read/heard anything about that, but she did say that it's not required so I can't get in trouble for it. AND DH's dad did acknowlege our long relationship in the letter explaining that we will be staying with them for a while, so technically it is there. But she said it should be OK because we have our marriage certificate. (PLUS I had put in copies of pictures over the years and flight itineraries, etc.). So I was stressing big time. Upon listening to it later, it was a little clearer to understand on point 1. that even though she
says we don't have savings, we do show a flow of income and the projected budget shows that we can "cope", and that it's a
good thing that I can get a job and showed contact I've made with agencies already. She said she was going to take it to the consulate first thing this morning, so we'll see!! I mean, I've read plenty of stories about people being aprroved without having thousands saved (which they can't realistically expect people to have when they're young, newly married, one is a student, and especially in the current economy, right??)
Meanwhile, I am keeping myself fully drugged up on anti-anxiety meds and staying very busy this weekend. Because I am stressing about every possible thing (including
if WHEN it gets approved, that we will still be poor to broke and I still need to take care of some things before I go. IN THREE WEEKS!! (**fingers crossed**) I keep telling myself it will be fine and everything will work out, but I'm about to lose it. I already received an email back from one of the agencies that is supposed to be a really good one and is in Leeds City Centre that because the of market right now, jobs are scarce. And even though I have good qualifications that they look for, they have nothing for me. That bursted my bubble a bit too. My new mantra to try to keep myself from flying off the handle "it will be fine, it will all work out, it will be fine, it will be fine...."
Anyhow... that turned in to a very long vent. But like I said, I'm freaking!
Beth, I didn't know you teach French! I so want to learn some, but DH will have none of it. haha. I'll learn some anyway, but I think we are going to learn some spanish together first. I remember some from High School, but not a whole lot.
Josy, how long are you over there for? I'm so jealous that you live by the beach!! I mean, I know it's come English beach, but it's still beach!!
