I watch too many romantic movies!

We've known each other since 2005, there's nothing we don't know about each other by now.

We talk about marriage all the time, actually. How we want to be together, raise children, etc. etc....he just seems a bit slow on the making it happen part. 

Though he did admit to me that he probably wants it and is just scared of it. 

Though he did admit to me that he probably wants it and is just scared of it. 

But that's kind of what I mean. If he's scared of it, that's a good sign that he's not ready for it just now.

My hubby was terrified of it and totally against marriage up until the day he decided. Then two days later he was in the states proposing and I was completely clueless!! Sometimes all they need is time and a good dose of life without you to see what they're missing. Is there anyone that can give him a non-chalant talk that he really listens to? DH's mother would always say little things that she knew would get him thinking because he always listens to her (even if he pretends he doesn't).

I was (maybe still am) scared to death of marriage.  I never wanted to get married.  I was dead set against it and vowed to never "give into the system" just because thats what people are "supposed" to do.  I was even against it when our relationship became quite serious.  But, like Chi Chi's hubby, I have been slapped in the face with the reality of being without him too many times and know in my heart that I want to spend the rest of my life with him, so now I look at marriage not as an institution, but what it should be - a committment between he and I.  I still find it odd that you have to have someone (be it a religious figure or a judge) verify and literally sign off on this committment, but if thats what has to be done, then so be it.

My best advice (which isnt worth much) is do NOT pressure him, eventhough it would be done out of love, be very careful with that.  Is this your first visit to England, Becca?  The first time you have spent time together as a "couple" right?  If so, I would be worried about someone who was not scared of marriage actually... be grateful that he is taking it seriously enough to not jump into it. 

Just out of curiousity, Chary and Mindy, how long were you seriously dating your hubbies before deciding to marry?

Just out of curiousity, Chary and Mindy, how long were you seriously dating your hubbies before deciding to marry?

I'm not married yet! 

But the wedding is in June (2009), and we met and started dating in April of 2004.

Congrats Chary! Are you over there now?

Congrats Chary! Are you over there now?

Yes, I was born in the UK and met my British fiance here.

Just out of curiousity, Chary and Mindy, how long were you seriously dating your hubbies before deciding to marry?

um, a bit longer than a year I think. 

Yes, I was born in the UK and met my British fiance here.

That's great. Lucky for you that you can live there legally. Were you able to live there all during your relationship?

That's great. Lucky for you that you can live there legally. Were you able to live there all during your relationship?

Yes, I've lived in the UK since before I met him. However, we were about a six-hour drive from each other, so for about four years we saw each other every 3-4 weeks.

Well ladies I guess it's time for me to start getting ready for our New Years Eve night out! Hope everyone has a safe and fun night! And I truly hope that everyone gets exactly what their hearts desire next year!! Nobody deserves it more than all the ladies and gentlemen on here! BYYEEE

But - I feel like I'm stuck in some kind of fear of commitment thing with him.  We talk about our future ALL THE TIME and he knows that if he wants me to stay/be here permanently we need to get married....but I feel like it's not going to happen anytime soon. 

You've only been together for six months.  Even if you've known each other since 2005, a relationship is a lot different than a friendship.

Give it time.  He'll get there eventually.  Its most likely not a fear of commitment, but not wanting to take things too fast. 

If its meant to be, a LDR for awhile isn't the end of the world.  That said, I can relate to how horrible they can be.  They are worth it in the end!

Hello Ladies,

Wow! Fun! Lots of new posters. Hope everyone has enjoyed this last day of 2008. I've been running around getting all sorts of errands done. I still have several things to do, but they'll have to wait till tmrw or Fri morning. Not much planned for NYE, but my sister and I are going out to dinner now. She said I'm welcome to come to a party with her and another friend, but it would be downtown and even she doesn't know anyone beyond the host. Kinda boring, really. I'd rather sit in my own living room (in my pj's ) and enjoy some champagne and watch the cheesy NYE shows on tv. That way I don't have to worry about driving after midnight, etc. Maybe this time next year I'll be in London... who knows.

Becca- sorry for your frustrations. Nothing that I can add to what others have said already. I do know about LDRs and they are very frustrating! The highs are high and lows are low.... As others have said, patience is the most important thing to have. Hugs to you! Don't let it overshadow the next couple of weeks of your trip. Enjoy every moment!

Carey- have you adjusted to the time change yet?? Hope you're not too sad being back now! We're glad to have you back here, though.

Brittany- congrats on "passing the test"! Hope you are continuing to have fun over there in NI!

Well, I'm off to get ready for dinner out with my sis. Should be fun (going to Mambo Italiano.) I think I'm even going to have dessert!

I hope everyone enjoys tonight wherever you may be in the world. Just remember, 2009 will be THE year for us. I can feel it! Be safe! xx

Happy New Years Everyone!!!! I hope it is a great one for all of you....

Becca...you just have to give it and him time...it takes men a little longer to figure out how they feel about us...It is hard to be separated from him trust me...but like this thread proves there are a lot of us going thru the same thing...some of us have made it to the happily ever after like Jamie and Alan...and you will too...but I think you have to let him come to that decision on his own...My fiance and I talked about marriage and raising kids alot...but even though I knew he was the one for me ...I don't think he was sure himself...and then one day he realized how he felt and then he asked me to marry him...so it will happen. You may have to go thru some time apart but in the end it is all going to be worth it...like they have said if it is meant to be it will be...and I believe for you and Tim it is meant to be...

Beth I hope for you that next year you will be celebrating New Years in London

Carey I hope for you that you and David will be closer to living together....

Patty I hope for you that you have a great year and a great wedding and that you and Ian have a wonderful time together

Jamie I hope you and Alan have a wonderful year together as well and a wonderful wedding...

to all the other ladies on here I hope you all get what your heart desires....and that you have a great new year...

And I hope we all keep chatting on this thread thru 2009 because it is the only thing that keeps me sane sometimes...lol

Hello, ladies....and Happy New Year!

Hope everyone had a beautiful New Year's Eve.  And 2009 is SO welcomed in my book, just so you all know.

lol.....I love all the new posts and posters.  Buutttt....I must admit....I'm a bit slow/a.d.d. and at this very second too much is going on for me.

I will say though that if Beth, you're in London next year for New Year's, maybe we should all get together somehow and celebrate?  Those of us that are going to be moving should HOPEFULLY be there this year (atleast, in my ideal world, that's what I like to think).

Oh, btw...Josy, anything yet? *hugs*

How's everyone holding up too, btw?

So, ladies....I've decided to watch some Sex and the City today in my pjs and just veg out.  Thank you all for being great women, amazing friends, and a wonderful support system.  Here's to all our hopes and dreams coming true in 2009!  *raises a toast of berry juice*