Suggestions needed fussy eaters coming for dinner

I found this recipe for Vegan Quiche.  It has no egg in it, but I'm not sure how the whole family would cope / like a tofu & soymilk quiche.  May be something you'd want to try first before serving to everyone.   

but i have to say, anyone who was that bloody fussy would get served normal chicken and told it was organic.  FFS.

oh btw... that wasn't a recommendation!
Just what i would feel like doing if i were in your shoes... 

but i have to say, anyone who was that bloody fussy would get served normal chicken and told it was organic.  FFS.

the thought has crossed my mind!!!!
My sons suggestion was to put him out into the garden and let him graze 

 

but i have to say, anyone who was that bloody fussy would get served normal chicken and told it was organic.  FFS.

My sons suggestion was to put him out into the garden and let him graze 

 

See, in my mind, there is a huge difference between someone with a food allergy and or medical issues and someone who is just fussy for fussy sake.
I think if you're a fussy eater and you just don't like stuff, then I think that when you're visiting someone, you need to be polite and eat what's offered, eat the best choices from what's offered, or not eat it, but don't complain!! I don't think its very polite to dictate what you can and can't eat just because you're a fussy eater!!! However, medical issues/food allergies, that's completely different, because that's not something you can control... 
Oh well, I guess I just like food... 

 
See, in my mind, there is a huge difference between someone with a food allergy and or medical issues and someone who is just fussy for fussy sake.
I think if you're a fussy eater and you just don't like stuff, then I think that when you're visiting someone, you need to be polite and eat what's offered, eat the best choices from what's offered, or not eat it, but don't complain!! I don't think its very polite to dictate what you can and can't eat just because you're a fussy eater!!! However, medical issues/food allergies, that's completely different, because that's not something you can control... 
Oh well, I guess I just like food... 

That's the crux of my problem.  I actually love to cook and normally I don't mind one little bit catering for those with special diets caused but fussiness or allergies but this one has really blind sided me.  Now I knew the boy was a vegan in California but was having to change that I bit with their move here.  But I had no idea about this no carb requirement of father and son and I really resent it as it was my friend that suggested they come for dinner,  then her comment that he eats alot. it's just a step too far so I will try my best and they will eat what they eat and if they leave hungry it's not my problem.  I just wonder how they think they are going to travel throughout Europe with dietry requirements like that.  I'd hate to have to spend my life worrying and trying to figure out if a restaurant has anything on the menu to feed my child, that in itself would ruin the holiday for me.

it's just a step too far so I will try my best and they will eat what they eat and if they leave hungry it's not my problem. 

Yes, I agree!

I just wonder how they think they are going to travel throughout Europe with dietry requirements like that.  I'd hate to have to spend my life worrying and trying to figure out if a restaurant has anything on the menu to feed my child, that in itself would ruin the holiday for me.

That would ruin the fun for me, 1/2 of the reasons for travel is to experience new and unusual food!! 

I think your friend is slightly taking the mick.

If I go to a friend's house and I know that she is cooking, I will say that I don't eat meat but make clear that I don't want anything special done.  So, for example, if there is a roast going I will just eat the veggies, and will make my own gravy.  If I am going to a barbeque I bring my own veggie bugers.  I wouldn't want to impose and that is with a fairly mainstream bit of fussines.

I think I would suggest a restaurant.  And get them to pick it.  I like your son's idea too though!

Vicky

My family's a bit tricky food-wise (coeliac disease, various allergies, diets, and general fussiness), but this lot takes the (sugar-free, vegan!) cake. You're a star for even having a go. Especially if they invited themselves to dinner and THEN stuck you with all this!

The worst I've had to deal with was when my parents and my in-laws came for my thesis defense. My dad is allergic to nuts, celery, melons, etc., the in-laws were doing South Beach, and I was not only vegetarian but also trialling a gluten-free diet on doctor's orders. Still don't know how I survived!

I think your friend is slightly taking the mick.

If I go to a friend's house and I know that she is cooking, I will say that I don't eat meat but make clear that I don't want anything special done.  So, for example, if there is a roast going I will just eat the veggies, and will make my own gravy.  If I am going to a barbeque I bring my own veggie bugers.  I wouldn't want to impose and that is with a fairly mainstream bit of fussines.

I think I would suggest a restaurant.  And get them to pick it.  I like your son's idea too though!

Vicky

I think being a vegetarian is a different thing altogether, it's not hard to make something veg friendly that either everyone can eat or something just for yuo on the side, one of my friends is veggy and I always do her something different, she doesn't like veg burgers so she gets a cheese platter and breads at my bbqs and can eat all the salads and veg kebabs

I think this sounds like a nightmare to me because it's like combinations of different people's allegy and the "oh he eats a lot" is almost like a warning that there should be plenty of food and a bit of a cheek! I would be quite inclined to tell them to bring their own food! Especially as they seem to have invited themselves for dinner.

You'll want to add calories for the fellows, especially the 17-year-old, so they feel full. A few ideas that my ex used to do:

Add lots of oil to salad. Toss the salad so the oil coats the greens.
Add seeds to the salad.
Mix oils into yogurt. A tablespoon or so mixes in quite nicely with some vigorous stirring. If you have ground almonds, mix some of those in as well.
Use a LOT of tofu (he could eat an entire package, one of the cubes about 1.5" x 3" x 3" at one sitting).
Put any ground nuts and lots of chopped up fruit in the yogurt (dates, figs, etc.). The yogurt can make a good breakfast or dessert. To sweeten, honey or maple syrup. You can add grated ginger as well.

Thick soups with squash would be good and filling, too.

A few peppers in the food to give it spicy heat will also help get people feeling full.

Another dessert idea -- raw or baked apples. Calorie-rich, tasty add-ons would be any nut butter and honey.

Good luck!

I think being a vegetarian is a different thing altogether,

Oh, I agree.  My point was that my food 'fussiness' is quite straight forward and I still try not be a pain, so someone who's 'fussiness' is extreme should also try.


Vicky

Oh, I agree.  My point was that my food 'fussiness' is quite straight forward and I still try not be a pain.

That's because you're a considerate person!
Consideration goes along way with me and being accommodating. Like if this person was "oh my son has these issues, don't worry too much, we'll bring crackers and cheese!" then I would go a lot further to make sure they were happy and had food!
My flatmate had this obnoxious boyfriend who only really ate white bread, chips and chicken nuggets and came to a dinner party once and just poked at the food  for the other guests with a fork and said things like "looks spicy" or "eww that smells funny" (yeah it's garlic fool!) after that I never made anything special for him and just let him be hungry.

I think if you're a fussy eater and you just don't like stuff, then I think that when you're visiting someone, you need to be polite and eat what's offered, eat the best choices from what's offered, or not eat it, but don't complain!!

I agree completely. I don't eat red meat and I'm used to just picking around it or eating everything else but the meat when invited to people's houses. Guests don't get to choose what their hosts serve them. They get to deal with it and be gracious about it.

My suggestion is not to invite them back!

As the parent of a child with a bunch of food allergies, I would never ever impose his restrictions on someone who invited us for dinner!  It's simply not fair to the host or the other guests.

Kateydid, you are definitely going above and beyond with this kid!

As the parent of a child with a bunch of food allergies, I would never ever impose his restrictions on someone who invited us for dinner!  It's simply not fair to the host or the other guests.

Kateydid, you are definitely going above and beyond with this kid!

I guess I just want them to feel welcome and as we haven't seen them in 15 years I am willing to make the effort.  It is definately not something I would do on a regular basis.  Also in fairness to the mom I'm thinking that since she deals with it everyday it's just become the norm and she's forgotten what it's like to cater for such a restrictive diet if you aren't around it all of the time.
I feel more sorry for their family members that they are staying with in Spain over Christmas, they get to cater for him for 2 weeks, 3 meals a day.  Makes my job look like a walk in the park.