Would you go on holiday without your spouse/partner?

I'm wondering what others think about this.  Would you go on holiday without your spouse/partner? 

For instance, what if you really wanted to visit a country but your spouse/partner had absolutely no interest in travelling there?   Would you go without them?

Absolutely!! I often go away without my partner - if I waited for him to come, I'd never go anywhere! I have enough other friends who like to travel that it's not a problem. Besides, I don't really like the idea of us being joined at the hip. We have fun together, but it's not essential - I can have fun without him, too! 

Sure, I would-  I have absolutely no problems going on holiday without my husband if it was somewhere he didn't care to go.  And likewise, if he wanted to go somewhere that I had no interest in (camping in the wilds of Europe come to mind), I'd have no problem with him going on his own if he wanted to.

As it is, though, we don't have much money to spare and the list of places we both want to go is long...so we end up taking all our holidays together anyway.

I would like to say yes, on principle, but the truth is....no.

For instance, I'd love to visit India, but he has no interest in it.  I could go by myself (I travelled alone before meeting Ross) or with a friend, but the fact is that I'd miss him too much and wouldn't enjoy myself.  Don't know if this is 10-year hangover from the long-distance relationship, but I wouldn't want to spend the time away.  Life's too short.  And unlike the President and VP, if we go down, it's going to be together!

Having said that, I completely understand why other people would.  

Funny...I had this conversation with a friend the other day.  I was insulted that she didn't ask if I wanted to go away to NY for her 30th birthday.  She only asked the single girls.  She said she just assumed that now that I was married I wouldn't travel without hubby.  She said none of her other married friends ever go on the girls holidays anymore and so she thought I would be the same. 

So my answer is obviously - Yes, I would go on holiday without my husband and I do.  Normally it's for either a girls week/weekend or because a friend is visiting from the US and we have decided to explore someplace in Europe together.  It's just easier travelling with just the friend than with DH in tow. 

I put depends...I would go away for a night or two but no more than that. 

Absolutely!  I have, and will do so again - in fact, next month I'm going to DC for the inauguration! 

Of course we love travelling together, but the fact that we have different friends and interests - as well as the fact that his job requires shift work and has set holidays that don't often collide with bank holidays or time that *I* can take off work (this is our fifth Christmas as a couple, our third since I moved to the UK to live him him, and the first we've spent in the same country) - means that we each often plan trips that for whatever reason don't include the other. 

Yes I would but in reality my husband would have a real cheek to not come with me.  I have no interest in going to the States to see his family but I do it for his sake!!  I can't imagine him being so disinterested in somewhere as to not want to go there.

I can't imagine him being so disinterested in somewhere as to not want to go there.

Do you have all the same interests?

Sure.  Don't really see a problem with it.

Before I had children, when I was married to ex H, we went on holidays without each other.  I came to the UK twice without him, once on my own to see a friend and another time with my mother for 3 weeks, went with my best friend to Vegas, San Francisco, NYC (shopping wasn't high on his list of fun things to travel for).

He liked to climb differently from me, so he went on trips with other climbing partners and even did long expeditions whilst I stayed home.

My parents have been very happily married for over 44 years and holiday with others as much as each other.  He goes on golfing trips or trips with other Knights of Columbus people and my mother goes with long-time friends or her sister or one of her kids.  They have lots of shared interests and lots of different interests as well - my mom's not much of a golf fan.  

My dad's been on several cattle drives with friends, too, and again, not my mom's cup of tea.

Do you have all the same interests?

Nope, but they are pretty similar and we do love going new places and have similar travel wishlists.  I just can't imagine him saying he didn't want to go somewhere.  Unless I had some bizarre ambition to go sunbathing in Siberia.

Absolutely!  In fact, I'm planning on going overseas by myself to attend the wedding of a very lovely friend next summer.

Honestly, I don't think I should sacrifice what I want to do simply because my husband doesn't.

Thanks everyone. 

In case anyone was wondering why I asked, I have decided to go to Israel in 2010, with or without my husband.  He has no interest in going, but I've decided that I'm no longer waiting for him to agree to go.  Its not fair to me!  I'd be really happy if he decides to go with me, but I highly doubt it will happen.

Thanks everyone. 

In case anyone was wondering why I asked, I have decided to go to Israel in 2010, with or without my husband.  He has no interest in going, but I've decided that I'm no longer waiting for him to agree to go.  Its not fair to me!  I'd be really happy if he decides to go with me, but I highly doubt it will happen.

Good for you! If you want to go, you definitely should! 

Honestly, I don't think I should sacrifice what I want to do simply because my husband doesn't.

that's my parents' philosophy!  obviously after so many years, it works for them!

i have no problem going to visit the US without DH.

he can't get the time off work so my mom is coming across just to help me get through with three small kids.