Would you go on holiday without your spouse/partner?

My husband is not allowed entry to the US.  So I go there at least once a year to see my family and friends.    But that is not our choice.  I would do a "girls only" holiday though. 

Thanks everyone. 

In case anyone was wondering why I asked, I have decided to go to Israel in 2010, with or without my husband.  He has no interest in going, but I've decided that I'm no longer waiting for him to agree to go.  Its not fair to me!  I'd be really happy if he decides to go with me, but I highly doubt it will happen.

That is fabulous!  I know there are loads of groups tours you can join in Israel.  (If that is what you want to do)

I go on holiday without my husband a lot.

I definitely would go on holiday without husband/partner.
And i would hope that he would do the same.
Too much togetherness (for me) is stifling!

I definitely would go on holiday without husband/partner.
And i would hope that he would do the same.
Too much togetherness (for me) is stifling!

for me, too.  and evidently, for my folks.

they were together 3 years before they married, so hey, 47 years is nothing to sneeze at, IMO.

she's off to Spain with her sister in March.  again. 

Thanks everyone. 

In case anyone was wondering why I asked, I have decided to go to Israel in 2010, with or without my husband.  He has no interest in going, but I've decided that I'm no longer waiting for him to agree to go.  Its not fair to me!  I'd be really happy if he decides to go with me, but I highly doubt it will happen.

Actually, that is our next planned holiday. I'm going to Israel next year and he's going to Puerto Rico.

Thanks everyone. 

In case anyone was wondering why I asked, I have decided to go to Israel in 2010, with or without my husband.  He has no interest in going, but I've decided that I'm no longer waiting for him to agree to go.  Its not fair to me!  I'd be really happy if he decides to go with me, but I highly doubt it will happen.

Good for you, Yael!
I would like to go to Israel but DH does not want to. Says he would not feel safe.
I have briefly discussed going with my step mum and her friend at some point. None of the husbands want to go 

I would definitely go without DF if he didn't want to or wasn't able to. I'd miss him, but would just be that much happier to come back to him with stories of my adventures and I know he would encourage it.

As far as going to Israel, I think it is great that you are going to go with or without your DH. We are hoping to go next year and in terms of safety, I honestly don't believe it is less safe than anywhere else at the moment (I'm not talking about small towns...). All of my young cousins, many friends and other relatives have traveled to Israel in recent months and years without any incidents.

In my old relationship with my ex I constantly travelled on my own.  I took numerous trips (at least a week or two) to England and Northern Ireland by myself.  Looking back on it I think I did it too much for the health of the relationship, but of course that was only one factor in the breakdown of it.

These days I am not so headstrong.  Since my hubby and I found each other "later in life" we prefer to travel together and thank goodness he has some of the same passions as I do.  I don't really count a long weekend as a vacation, but I expect my hubby to take at least a couple long weekends on his own in the summer to do some serious back country hiking and mountain climbing.  I may take a couple long weekends for music workshops.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it, but I, personally, wouldn't want to.

It wouldn't be as enjoyable for me to go somewhere if I couldn't share the experience with my husband  If there was someplace he really wanted to go to, but I wasn't particularly interested at first, I would still want to go to find out what it is that he likes about the place, and learn more about it and about him. The same for a place that I wanted to go to but he wasn't really interested in - I think he would want to go just to learn about what I like and learn more about me.

I don't think there is any place one of us would want to visit that the other one would absolutely not want to go to, and have to be dragged there against our will.  If our interests were that dissimilar, I don't think our marriage would be as successful.

Like Andee, my hubby and I found each other later in life.

When I went back to visit my family a few weeks ago, I had everyone at work ask if my husband was coming with me. I thought it was a very strange question, as it would never occur to me to travel without my husband. I thought perhaps it was more of a British thing to travel without one's partner??

Since my husband and I have been together since we were quite young, we've done all our traveling together. I wouldn't want to travel with anyone else as I get quite stressed out when I'm in a foreign country, and couldn't imagine anyone else handling me better than him.

When I went back to visit my family a few weeks ago, I had everyone at work ask if my husband was coming with me. I thought it was a very strange question, as it would never occur to me to travel without my husband. I thought perhaps it was more of a British thing to travel without one's partner??

I don't think it's a British thing. I think it's more a "some people like it, some don't" thing. It's interesting though that it's now common enough that people won't automatically assume you're traveling with your partner. 

My husband and I travel about 3.5 months out of the year and we mostly do it together. But at least 2-3 weeks out of that, we travel by ourselves.

I didn't get married particularly late, I was 27, but I guess I was fairly set in my ways by then so maybe that's where this occasional need to go off on my own comes from: when I was single I was a habitual solitary traveler.

I intend to get to India someday, whatever it takes.... Other half isnt really interested and is afraid of gyppy tummy, so quite frankly i'd prefer to go without and really enjoy myself, rather than dragging along someone who is just going to be miserable..

I do it every year, at least once.  My DH will not go to our hometown to visit the family - it's too overwhelming for him so he stays home while I take the kids. 

The other part of it is we are firm believers in separate vacations but really, we've had many more separate vacations than vacations together.  We just have not had the money. 

I'm really looking forward to having vacations with just DH once the kids are off to Uni.  1.5 years for DD and 3.5 for DS.  We're counting down!!

Yes.  Totally.  And since we've been married 20 years it doesn't seem to have done any harm.  We have family holidays but some things we both just don't enjoy-like rural Pennsylvania.   Personally, I think that having different interests is good for coupledom.  Just my opinion though.

Of course. I have done so. Sometimes it's hard to work out our holiday schedules because our work has different fiscal years.  I have so many friends all over the world that it provides me an excellent opportunity to go to these places and visit them and have them show me around.  Heck, I have to catch up to half the countries DH has been to!!