Wedding Gift Registry? What to do!

We've had a couple of wedding invites in the UK with registry information on a separate card, like LuckyCuz describes.  But I wouldn't and didn't put it anywhere near our invitations...word of our registry (amazon.co.uk) was spread through word of mouth, and many people just gave us random things, vouchers, or cash.

We're getting married in April in the US then Molly is moving over to the UK after we've been on a road trip from Denver to San Diego. As we don't want to/can't ship big items across a traditional registry is no good for us so we've created a honeymoon registry (at Travellors Joy). We chose this as the guests can pick specific items for the honeymoon but we just get the money. I'm sure you can tailor it to so it's not a honeymoon list.

Asking for money in another guise is still asking for money. Why not just ask for cash and save the commission?

Asking for money in another guise is still asking for money. Why not just ask for cash and save the commission?

Because asking for money outright is considered rude.  I've never heard of this honeymoon registry thing so I can't really comment on that, but I do know that you just don't say you want only money for your wedding.  Most people will be really taken aback by that.

Because asking for money outright is considered rude.  I've never heard of this honeymoon registry thing so I can't really comment on that, but I do know that you just don't say you want only money for your wedding.  Most people will be really taken aback by that.

Yes, thank you, I'm aware of that as I previously said in this thread. I was simply pointing out that there's hardly a distinction between a honeymoon registry that doesn't actually purchase a honeymoon and just asking for money. Might as well save the comission.

We had a Debenhams registry, everyone asked and were directed accordingly.  Initially, both DH and I worried that the wedding registry was 'rude', but everyone really expected it...

Just to further clarify my earlier comment, and demonstrate how much it was expected (our wedding was here in the UK) - people didn't ask items what we wanted, the question was, invariably - 'Where are you registered?' (asked & answered by word of mouth)

I think one or two guests brought gifts they picked out themselves (not from our registry), which was, of course, perfectly fine.  And we got a couple of checks as well - which were made out in dollars, and we had difficulty with those, because my US account was still in my unmarried name and the checks were made out to us with my new surname.

I hate it when people register.  When I go to see what to get them only the pricey stuff is usually left 

Can you do some form of money pool with Debenhams?  Where people can put a amount into vouchers for you and then you just tot up what you have to spend in the store?

I'm sorry, but you'd be wrong.  Gifts should not be mentioned in invitation at all, even registries. Give your guests a bit of credit: if they want to know what to get you, they'll ask.

Ok, I'll agree with you on that note.

But once people found out about the engagement on my end, they asked me when the date was, and what gifts we would like already. I guess it's only with my family and group of friends--but when I asked the person helping me make the invites for suggestions on what to say, she said to say something that just lets people know that we do plan to settle over there, and if they would like to give a gift, it would be appericated that it's something useful.

Of course, we're not popular people. I wasn't even thinking of a bridal shower, to be honest with you. Most people I know just want to make sure that we do alright on our own. Most people that are asking to send the gifts ask because they cannot make a flight to Maryland, or from the UK to Maryland to attend.

And I wasn't going to even put that in the invitations themselves I was just going to put it on a tiny slip of paper in the envelope or something.

Thank you all for your kind words on the matter. At least I know why it's such a big deal now.