Oil is expensive no matter what you do I think. My parents rarely use their oil furnace anymore, and have switched to a woodstove/efficient space heater. It's a little colder where they are than Maryland, but I've used oil before, and it's not cheap, even using minimal heating.
My parents used to put slate toppers on the radiators to help with heat distribution. I am assuming you have those big cast iron things. If there's a lot of houses in the area with these radiators, you might find people who sell finished ones (wood along the sides) at flea markets or whatever. I would not have unfinished ones with kids or pets. I think they make them out of other stones, and at least according to
this blog, it appears there might be mass produced somewhere by someone.
If you live in an area that gets dry in the winter, a pot of water either on the stove or set on the radiators not only helps with dryness, but makes it feel warmer. Making sure your storms are closed, and if you don't have storms, covering them with plastic sheeting or with thick thermal curtains will help. It's really surprising just how much storm windows help, and if you're not used to them, you might not realise it. Plastic sheeting looks ugly, but it helps somewhat if you don't have storm windows.