I honestly try not to take general comments personally. One of my biggest pet peeves is when people personalize comments despite context. Seriously - I have had many conversations with myself over it through the years.
I'm not a flag waver and don't have a problem with someone bringing up actual annoying or appaling qualities that are/might be attributed to the US through the actions of individuals or the US goverment. Whatever. If they aren't talking about me personally, why take it personally? People generalize. That's how life is.
So our guest lecturer today (who surely does not remember that I am an American) just got back from 5 weeks in Pasadena, CA. She was obviously excited about her experience and quite charmed by the area - full of anecdotes and stories how
perfect the weather is in So Cal and about life and people in the USA, - like "all Americans think we live in picturesque little cottages" and "all Americans take coffee breaks every hour", etc. I was thinking in my head "not ALL Amercians" but understood that she was just excited and making generalizations on a limited experience as one does.
She was describing the Antebellum houses (
) in the area, (exact phrase "Gone with the Wind houses") and made the statement that the actual "Gone with the Wind house was torn down" followed by "just like the Americans. No appreciation for culture". Quickly a guy in class offered up "they have no culture!" Everybody laughs. Except the woman sitting next to me who gives me the stink eye and says "aren't your going to defend yourself?"
All I could say was "obviously they are not talking about me." But I was floored and I was really really really pissed. Now I'm very bothered about the fact it pisses me off and I'm trying to deal with it so I can stop fuming.
They're just taking the piss. They are generalizing. Hey, at least I wasn't accused of sheep shagging
. They are all nice people who made statements that are short sighted.
Number one, Hello, Gone with the Wind. Georgia!?! Plantations. African people in American servitude. Not Pasadena, CA. Also, if it was built for the movie (ie. a set), no big shock if it gets torn down. Not exactly culture.
Second. Maybe it doesn't rain much in So Cal, and yes it is a desert - but when you cram it full of people who use a billion of gallons of water to take showers, wash cars and try to grow grass, you are seriously weighing down one side of the ecological balance to the detriment of the other. Rain is good. Rain is essential. Don't forget the importance of rain just because you were born and raised in the UK. Is it 'perfect' that one area sucks the life out of another because a million people want to live there?
Finally - the US is a country of individuals. We are not a collective. Joe Average American is no less ignorant of the world outside our borders than the average UKer. We are not the squirrel-eating, cousin-loving, shotgun having morons you see in the movies. We have culture coming out the ass -
thank you very much. Midwest, New Orleans, Texas, New England, So Cal, Mid Cal, No Cal, Pacific NW, Frontier, South, New York,... On top of that, we have people from all over the globe bringing their cultures, blending and remaining distinct in different proportions. Different people sharing a common and distinct heritage. Just because it doesn't look like your culture, doesn't mean it's not culture. *sshole.
Sorry. Maybe I just had to rant. But I really want to know what other people think is actually the root of the irritation when it comes to such short sighted remarks. Am I ever going to be able to become immune or is it just human nature to react to these kinds of slights?