Worse Than An IA

So sad to hear CB...hopefully the family can pull together for his wife & baby and the guilty are punished to the maximum of the law.

Does seem to be a lot of bad karma going around.
DS is balking at phoning his shrink referral. I told him his sister would have wanted him to do it and sort himself out. Don't know if it sunk in.  How do you cope with stubborn depressed 29-year olds?
DH's renal checkup was not brilliant. His numbers were down 3 months ago and if not improved this time they will have to change meds. He's down to 18% kidney function (Says he feels fine though)

Only just saw this, BD. I hope DS gets the help he needs and DH's kidney function improves.  ((Hugs))

My industry lost a real gent yesterday, we got reports that someone I'd dealt with but didn't really know was killed in a car accident on Friday and his six months pregnant wife was in hospital. So horrible and sad, but today we got hit with all the gory details

Was a head on crash, the driver of the other car was on drugs and was trying to take off her jumper whilst the front seat passenger held the wheel. Two passengers of her car were killed as well.

This lovely guy swerved at the last second so his side of the car took the full impact protecting his wife and unborn baby.

Such a bloody waste, some stupid 21 year old girl who shouldn't even be driving, takes her sweater off without thinking and a poor baby will never meet their Dad.

bleh

I hope that the support of family and friends will get them through such a horrific time. Sounds like the guy did all he could to protect his family. What a terrible loss.

What do you say to someone who has about a week to live?

I got a call at 2am from my best friend, telling me that our college choir director had made an announcement to the current choir that he has been given 7-10 days to live by his doctors... He has been dealing with liver cancer for about a year, but I thought his treatments were going well. That's a rather small window of time, isn't it?..

So now I'm sitting here attempting to compose an email to him, and I just don't know what to say...

What do you say to someone who has about a week to live?

I got a call at 2am from my best friend, telling me that our college choir director had made an announcement to the current choir that he has been given 7-10 days to live by his doctors... He has been dealing with liver cancer for about a year, but I thought his treatments were going well. That's a rather small window of time, isn't it?..

So now I'm sitting here attempting to compose an email to him, and I just don't know what to say...

So sorry to hear this. My father died of liver cancer, and it can go pretty fast in the final stages. It really is so difficult to know what to say to someone who is terminally ill, but perhaps you could just tell him how much of an impact he has made in your life and that he will be missed. It would be nice to ask if there is anything you can send to him or anything else you can do. (((HUGS)))

Big hugs PL.  I agree with Julia, just tell him how much you care and send your support.  All my best in this hard time.

So sorry to hear that, PL. I agree with Jewlz, just tell him what he's meant to you. I don't know if there's a "right" thing to say, but I think you'd have to try pretty hard to say the "wrong" thing, too - anything you write will be meaningful to him.

I'm very sorry to hear that PL.  I know how incredible music teachers/music directors can be and their influence on our lives- so maybe just try and tell him so. 
Very sad indeed   

Sorry, PrincessL. That is a very short time frame.  Sometimes they do get it wrong but sounds like he's preparing for it.

I'm sorry PL.

What do you say to someone who has about a week to live?

I got a call at 2am from my best friend, telling me that our college choir director had made an announcement to the current choir that he has been given 7-10 days to live by his doctors... He has been dealing with liver cancer for about a year, but I thought his treatments were going well. That's a rather small window of time, isn't it?..

So now I'm sitting here attempting to compose an email to him, and I just don't know what to say...

I'm so sorry. I think I'd just say what you appreciate about him, how has he impacted you in a positive way: whatever comes from the heart.

((Hugs))

I'm so sorry to hear about that, PL. 

Thank you, everyone. Really, reading these helped a lot today...

But it turns out this was a giant game of Telephone/Chinese Whispers.  Turns out he actually is going to be having a rather intense round of chemo, and it will take him "7-10 days to recover"!!! I discovered this just a couple hours ago.... How my friend heard the misinformation from multiple people is beyond me. But I am very thankful that although he will be having a tough time, he is still relatively okay. And also, rather irritated at needlessly having to process this devastating news for an entire day.

Thank you, everyone. Really, reading these helped a lot today...

But it turns out this was a giant game of Telephone/Chinese Whispers.  Turns out he actually is going to be having a rather intense round of chemo, and it will take him "7-10 days to recover"!!! I discovered this just a couple hours ago.... How my friend heard the misinformation from multiple people is beyond me. But I am very thankful that although he will be having a tough time, he is still relatively okay. And also, rather irritated at needlessly having to process this devastating news for an entire day.

That's great news! I'm glad he'll be recovering

Thanks! It really is. I'm very relieved.

He's a tough guy. Was given 3-6 months to live... 2 years ago! And only briefly handed over the choir to someone else during some of his more intense treatment. I don't think he would ever quit. So glad I'll get to see him again in December!

Thank you, everyone. Really, reading these helped a lot today...

But it turns out this was a giant game of Telephone/Chinese Whispers.  Turns out he actually is going to be having a rather intense round of chemo, and it will take him "7-10 days to recover"!!! I discovered this just a couple hours ago.... How my friend heard the misinformation from multiple people is beyond me. But I am very thankful that although he will be having a tough time, he is still relatively okay. And also, rather irritated at needlessly having to process this devastating news for an entire day.

Phew!  Glad he is going to be ok. Liver cancer is horrible, and not many people who get it are able to make a recovery. He's a lucky guy. Still, I hope you are able to tell him how much you care. No time like the present!