Worse Than An IA

Thanks Jewlz.

Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts.  I know she will be fine (provided there are no complications to the surgery) but it was so scary at the time.  And it could have been worse ...

My mom has just been diagnosed with cervical cancer and so they want to do a surgery to remove her uterus (they think that will take care of the whole situation and clear her of cancer) but can't clear her for surgery due to a few other issues she's having!  It's hard being so far away and not being able to be there to help somehow! 

So Sorry to hear about your mom Amberelle11.

So sorry to hear that, Ambrelle, it is so hard to live away in situations like this. I hope your mom has a swift recovery and that you get to see her soon. Big hugs!

Big hugs for you Amberelle. Sending positive vibes to your mom. 

Thank you everyone! Will keep updates as I hear more!!

Just reading this, Amberelle11.  I'm so sorry to hear about your mom.  Hugs to you.  I hope it all turns out okay.

My mom has just been diagnosed with cervical cancer and so they want to do a surgery to remove her uterus (they think that will take care of the whole situation and clear her of cancer) but can't clear her for surgery due to a few other issues she's having!  It's hard being so far away and not being able to be there to help somehow! 

I only just read this, Amberelle. Sorry to hear about that. My mom had the same surgery when I was in high school, though her tumor was benign... Thinking of you and hoping they are able to clear her for surgery soon.

My mom has just been diagnosed with cervical cancer and so they want to do a surgery to remove her uterus (they think that will take care of the whole situation and clear her of cancer) but can't clear her for surgery due to a few other issues she's having!  It's hard being so far away and not being able to be there to help somehow! 

Aww big (((Hugs))) to you

Hope it all goes well for your mum, Amberelle.

Thank you so much you guys! It's so nice to have people to just vent those emotions to! I get to skype with my mom tonight, so hopefully it will be full of good updates! I will keep you guys posted! 

Thank you so much you guys! It's so nice to have people to just vent those emotions to! I get to skype with my mom tonight, so hopefully it will be full of good updates! I will keep you guys posted!  

I hope you had a good chat with your mom.  


As some of you may remember my sister suffers from Bipolar Disorder and things at home had been rather difficult when she started treatment. Since then things had been mostly better with a few hiccups. However, she's been feeling pretty hopeless lately. She's 25 and she can't hold down a job. She hasn't finished her degree and she feels like her life is a dead end and that she's a burden to my parents. She doesn't feel like her treatment has improved her quality of life, but refuses other treatments because of the adverse side effects.

She keeps saying things like "I just feel like the only treatment for this is ending it. I won't, but I think about it a lot." Of course I tell my parents or notify whoever I can that she's saying these things, but I don't know what to say to her when we talk. I'm afraid to make it worse. I feel like "I know it's hard, but you can work through this" doesn't really help much and just seems like what you're supposed to say. I just don't know how to be a good sister in this scenario. I feel like all I can do is listen and say cliche things and that's not good enough.  

Amberelle- I am wishing your Mom the best and hoping your next posts will bring good news!

PlainPearl- I can sympathise with your post. Listening to her and supporting her definitely qualify you for good sister status! Continue to support her and don't forget to seek out emotional support for yourself as well if you feel like it is becoming too much.


My More than IA: My great uncle died this weekend (it wasn't a shock, but still upsetting) and the only person who bothered to let me know was my second cousin (his granddaughter) in a fb message.

I am weirded out that no one else bothered to call/text/message me. It's upsetting enough to not be able to attend the funeral and I have no way of talking about him to anyone here besides my husband. I feel very isolated. 

The worst part is I also feel like a selfish jerk for being upset because I was the one that moved and chose this and I shouldn't resent the people I love be such a whiny baby at a time such as this. Oh, the joys of living abroad, eh?

My More than IA: My great uncle died this weekend (it wasn't a shock, but still upsetting) and the only person who bothered to let me know was my second cousin (his granddaughter) in a fb message.

I am weirded out that no one else bothered to call/text/message me. It's upsetting enough to not be able to attend the funeral and I have no way of talking about him to anyone here besides my husband. I feel very isolated. 

The worst part is I also feel like a selfish jerk for being upset because I was the one that moved and chose this and I shouldn't resent the people I love be such a whiny baby at a time such as this. Oh, the joys of living abroad, eh?

Thanks, Danielle.

Regarding your situation, just because you moved away doesn't mean your family no longer needs to be courteous enough to inform you of major events. You moved abroad, you didn't disappear. There's no excuse for not contacting if they have the means to do so. Having said that, deaths are never easy and maybe things got confused. Perhaps people assumed the information had been passed onto you? I don't blame you for being upset though.