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Re: Worse Than An IA
« Reply #285 on: August 12, 2009, 08:12:54 AM »
So sorry to hear about Guy's father, H. Your family is in my thoughts.


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Re: Worse Than An IA
« Reply #286 on: August 12, 2009, 08:43:23 AM »
Oh Chary, ((((hugs))))
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« Reply #287 on: August 12, 2009, 08:58:36 AM »
I'm so sorry, H.  You're all in my thoughts. *hugs*


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« Reply #288 on: August 12, 2009, 09:01:41 AM »
Sorry to hear your sad news, Chary.  :\\\'(


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« Reply #289 on: August 12, 2009, 09:35:28 AM »
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« Reply #290 on: August 12, 2009, 12:51:16 PM »
Those of you who have recently lost loved ones might recognize what I'm going through.  It's been a month since E. died.  I haven't broken down sobbing since the funeral but it hits me from time to time and I tear up and feel really down.  I have this compulsion to keep checking online -- she's still on the staff list at her work, still on facebook, still on Skype, still on IM, her blog is still up (although we updated it with the news), still on my email contacts -- so how can she be gone?  I dragged bags and bags of her clothes to the Marie Curie charity shop -- more bags to Goodwill after I got home.  How can she be gone?
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Re: Worse Than An IA
« Reply #291 on: August 12, 2009, 01:00:18 PM »
Those of you who have recently lost loved ones might recognize what I'm going through.  It's been a month since E. died.  I haven't broken down sobbing since the funeral but it hits me from time to time and I tear up and feel really down.  I have this compulsion to keep checking online -- she's still on the staff list at her work, still on facebook, still on Skype, still on IM, her blog is still up (although we updated it with the news), still on my email contacts -- so how can she be gone?  I dragged bags and bags of her clothes to the Marie Curie charity shop -- more bags to Goodwill after I got home.  How can she be gone?
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« Reply #292 on: August 12, 2009, 01:03:50 PM »
Yeah, should get back into knitting.
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Re: Worse Than An IA
« Reply #293 on: August 12, 2009, 01:04:35 PM »
Those of you who have recently lost loved ones might recognize what I'm going through.  It's been a month since E. died.  I haven't broken down sobbing since the funeral but it hits me from time to time and I tear up and feel really down.  I have this compulsion to keep checking online -- she's still on the staff list at her work, still on facebook, still on Skype, still on IM, her blog is still up (although we updated it with the news), still on my email contacts -- so how can she be gone?  I dragged bags and bags of her clothes to the Marie Curie charity shop -- more bags to Goodwill after I got home.  How can she be gone?

I felt this way after my mother died. I know it sounds trite, but it's really true: Time heals. Back then, I didn't really find anything else helped at all. Just time.
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Re: Worse Than An IA
« Reply #294 on: August 12, 2009, 01:06:04 PM »
Yeah, should get back into knitting.
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Re: Worse Than An IA
« Reply #295 on: August 12, 2009, 01:09:25 PM »
Those of you who have recently lost loved ones might recognize what I'm going through.  It's been a month since E. died.  I haven't broken down sobbing since the funeral but it hits me from time to time and I tear up and feel really down.  I have this compulsion to keep checking online -- she's still on the staff list at her work, still on facebook, still on Skype, still on IM, her blog is still up (although we updated it with the news), still on my email contacts -- so how can she be gone?  I dragged bags and bags of her clothes to the Marie Curie charity shop -- more bags to Goodwill after I got home.  How can she be gone?


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Re: Worse Than An IA
« Reply #296 on: August 12, 2009, 01:11:13 PM »
Those of you who have recently lost loved ones might recognize what I'm going through.  It's been a month since E. died.  I haven't broken down sobbing since the funeral but it hits me from time to time and I tear up and feel really down.  I have this compulsion to keep checking online -- she's still on the staff list at her work, still on facebook, still on Skype, still on IM, her blog is still up (although we updated it with the news), still on my email contacts -- so how can she be gone?  I dragged bags and bags of her clothes to the Marie Curie charity shop -- more bags to Goodwill after I got home.  How can she be gone?

Huge hugs to you.
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Re: Worse Than An IA
« Reply #297 on: August 12, 2009, 01:16:12 PM »
I'm so sorry Aless and Chary.  :\\\'( *big hugs*

And BD, I know this feeling so well. I lost my friend Wendi to breast cancer this spring, and I see her name on Facebook or MySpace and for a split second, my mind tricks me into believing she's online. It's nice to see all the comments people continue to write, like a memorial, but each time remembering she's gone takes my breath away. *big hugs*


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Re: Worse Than An IA
« Reply #298 on: August 12, 2009, 01:27:20 PM »
Those of you who have recently lost loved ones might recognize what I'm going through.  It's been a month since E. died.  I haven't broken down sobbing since the funeral but it hits me from time to time and I tear up and feel really down.  I have this compulsion to keep checking online -- she's still on the staff list at her work, still on facebook, still on Skype, still on IM, her blog is still up (although we updated it with the news), still on my email contacts -- so how can she be gone?  I dragged bags and bags of her clothes to the Marie Curie charity shop -- more bags to Goodwill after I got home.  How can she be gone?

I'm so sorry, B.  :\\\'( I hope the grief becomes easier to bear soon. Drop me an email sometime and let me know how you are. (((HUGS)))


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Re: Worse Than An IA
« Reply #299 on: August 12, 2009, 01:52:42 PM »
Cancer seems to be claiming lots of folks lately :(.  BD, I haven't gotten to that point yet, but right now it's still a bit in a surreal mode since I haven't gone home yet (leaving Friday)...I mean, there's pictures around my flat and our wedding photos and stuff and right now it's still a little unreal that she won't be there with my dad at the airport on Friday, IYKWIM.  I just went through a tagged all these old photos my sister put up on Facebook of my mom and even that didn't make me /sad/ so much as it was all just strange.

My sister says it sounds like my dad isn't coping overly well (they were married for 36 yrs) so I really can't wait to get there on Friday - she wasn't sure since it's impossible to tell over there phone.  I worry that he's not but honestly not like I can intervene with how a grown man copes with his grief?

BD...losing a child must be similar to losing a parent.  Your daughter was my sister's age and that's just so hard to fathom.  Even though I know it's true, it's when people make remarks about my mom "being in a better place" that actually make me the most emotional...

(sorry, didn't mean to make this so self-centered)
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