The official UKY inlaw venting thread

Yeah, I know what you were saying, but I don't know why you have to give it to her.  I guess I was suggesting you be a bit passive aggressive, which isn't a great suggestion I suppose.  But when she asked where the cheesecake was, you could say that you thought it would be too rich.

Yeah, I know what you were saying, but I don't know why you have to give it to her.  I guess I was suggesting you be a bit passive aggressive, which isn't a great suggestion I suppose.  But when she asked where the cheesecake was, you could say that you thought it would be too rich.

I see your point. But I like cheesecake. Angel cake? Not so much. And, given that we'll have all the leftovers here, I'd rather make her something I like. I'm sure she'll be fine when she eats it. I know she has some digestive issues, but I think it's more to do with the gallons of booze she consumes on a daily basis than anything she eats. But that's a story for another day. 

I often think that our MiLs would get along famously.  It sort of reminds me of the time she drank her tea black when she ran out of milk.  I offered her some of our gold top, and she refused saying it was too fatty.  She normally uses whole milk, which actually is fattier than the gold top we used.

Then there was the time she tried to convince me that whipping cream was fattier than double cream.  I know my dairy products.

Plus it's her birthday.  I suppose even MILs should get what kind of cake they want for their birthday (even if they complain about it).

My MIL's birthday is next Friday (Christmas day).  I am wondering if I should be a super DIL and send her some flowers.  

Yeah, but I have to eat it too and a low-fat cheesecake is not worth it to me. 

I hadn't thought of that.  Not being a cheesecake fan, I'm usually happy to mess about with it since I don't eat it.

I often think that our MiLs would get along famously.  It sort of reminds me of the time she drank her tea black when she ran out of milk.  I offered her some of our gold top, and she refused saying it was too fatty.  She normally uses whole milk, which actually is fattier than the gold top we used.

Then there was the time she tried to convince me that whipping cream was fattier than double cream.  I know my dairy products.

That's exactly the sort of thing my MIL does.

But I hope they never meet. If there were ever that much annoying MIL-ness in one room, I think the universe might implode.

My MIL's birthday is next Friday (Christmas day).  I am wondering if I should be a super DIL and send her some flowers.  

Why must they all have birthdays at Christmas?? Yet another example of how inconsiderate they are!  

Plus it's her birthday.  I suppose even MILs should get what kind of cake they want for their birthday (even if they complain about it).

My MIL's birthday is next Friday (Christmas day).  I am wondering if I should be a super DIL and send her some flowers.  

Make a donation in her name.  Flowers won't have to die needlessly, and it will warm her hippie heart.

Why must they all have birthdays at Christmas?? Yet another example of how inconsiderate they are!  

I know, right??  Like we don't have enough to worry about!!

Make a donation in her name.  Flowers won't have to die needlessly, and it will warm her hippie heart.

Very good idea and so very true!

It's looking like it's going to snow.

Make a donation in her name.  Flowers won't have to die needlessly, and it will warm her hippie heart.

Hmm, would it be mean if I made a donation to a Catholic charity in her name? 

Df's mother and husband gave him a $50 visa gift card for his bday (Sunday)  and nothing for his graduation ( Saturday)  His sister gave him nothing for either.  .

I'm so pissed and hurt for him - I don't know what to say.

Df's mother and husband gave him a $50 visa gift card for his bday (Sunday)  and nothing for his graduation ( Saturday)  His sister gave him nothing for either.  .

I'm so pissed and hurt for him - I don't know what to say.

Aww, ImissEngland, my sister doesn't even remember my birthday half the time--these days I'm lucky if I get a text on my birthday, let alone a card.  I've lowered my expectations.  I think you and your fiance need to as well.  When you expect nothing, you are not disappointed.  Anything you do get then, is a bonus.

Aww, ImissEngland, my sister doesn't even remember my birthday half the time--these days I'm lucky if I get a text on my birthday, let alone a card.  I've lowered my expectations.  I think you and your fiance need to as well.  When you expect nothing, you are not disappointed.  Anything you do get then, is a bonus.

I agree 

When you expect nothing, you are not disappointed.  Anything you do get then, is a bonus.

So true Andee. I am lucky if my mother remembers. She doesn't even remember her grandkids' birthdays, even when I phone a couple weeks ahead (time for a card), then when I phone the day before (at least she could call and say happy birthday). Very sad for the kids.

Df's mother and husband gave him a $50 visa gift card for his bday (Sunday)  and nothing for his graduation ( Saturday)  His sister gave him nothing for either.  .

I'm so pissed and hurt for him - I don't know what to say.

I hear ya...however I am learning that Andee's way of dealing with it is probably the best...I used to get a gift, that turned into a birthday card, which turned into an e-card or a phonecall...but this year it was a post on my FB wall. Sorry to say but as you get older, the events that you think are significant become unimportant to those around you.