First, thanks to everyone who answered my question about the airing.
DH does know how frustrating it all is for me. I pretty much just suck it up and paste a fake smile on my face when I have to be around the in-laws, go into our room(their former dining room, where our comp and game consoles and stuff are) and hide out from them, until I can handle the in laws again. That's also why I go to the charity shop even when I technically don't feel like being around people, and why I let myself "get lost" coming home today from it. I got called in to the nursery tomorrow to work, so, another day of escaping.
MiL puts the pillows closer to the bed warmer, which is why she noticed DH's pj's in the first place. I know, she still treats him like he's 7.
She put the paracetamol and water out for him during lunch time because he eats his lunch here, because his office is so close, and he hates where he works. She just got it ready for him so that he could eat, take the meds and go back to work at 12.40pm, like he has done every day since he started working at his office.
She used to help him on with his coat, every morning, but, I told him one day, when he was going back to work after lunch, "Um, yeah, I'm not gonna do the coat thing for you. You're a big boy." He laughed, but, I didn't really. She didn't help him on with the coat today. Obviously, the topic has been mentioned and duly noted. I was about to burst with joy this morning!
The parents have been taking care of him for SO long that it's just become second nature to them, just part of them, part of their personality. We've been apart because of the LDR for so long, that I just....I dunno, try and look past the clingy-ness. Sometimes it works, sometimes I want to jump in the river.
Sorry if I complain too much about them and what happens, though. I'm trying to ease the whole boundaries thing in, but, I'm not very assertive even during the best of times.