Before I moved here, DH had moved in with his parents to save some money. Because he was physically there and he always had a lot of extra cash on him (he really didn't have any bills at that point in time and was just saving it all), his parents and brother were continuously borrowing money from him.
The thing now is that they are continuing to borrow money from him (which is now us!) every single month. He went from a "single" man with no bills, to a husband and Dad who provides sole support for 3 people (with a baby on the way). His mom has even said something to me a few weeks ago about how she knows he doesn't really have any extra money now that he has a family to support. We aren't really struggling but we do have a budget for everything and we set money aside for things like weekly take-away, going to see a movie, taking my daughter out somewhere for the weekend, etc. So when his family needs to borrow money, we have to use the money we saved for our extracurricular activities and then we have to sit at home all weekend.
The good thing is that they do pay us back every single month within 1-2 days of them getting paid (which proves they do have the money every month, they just need to learn how to budget better). To me, that's not the point though. The point is that we have to give up the things we have planned in order to give them money. *As a side note...part of the reason giving them money pisses me off so much is because his mom is always borrowing money from us to put petrol in her car. Why does she need to do that? Because she lets his brother borrow the car and he returns it on empty. But she continues to let him borrow the car, knowing that it will not have any petrol in it when she gets it back. Well of course she does, because she knows she can just come down here and borrow money from us.*
DH doesn't have a problem with it at all because his view is "They pay us back every month so we're not losing anything." He's not bothered by the fact that we might not have take-away, or we might not be able to take our daughter to the movies on the weekend or whatever because we have to wait X amount of days/weeks to get the money back from them.
I know I'm pregnant so that probably doesn't help things...but even before I moved here I thought it was really strange that his parents would end up owing him over £200 every month...yet they literally make 5 times more money than he does.
ARG!! Just needed to vent.