We're doing Christmas with my family, then with the inlaws this weekend. I'm dreading it. DH's mother just does not get that I have asthma, and therefore cannot go to her smoke-infested house. (Mil's husband chain smokes in her home.) She had a cry-baby fit and told DH that the only thing she wanted for Xmas was for me and him to come over, she cook for us, then we all sit around and play cards just like their family did before DH moved out to go to college. (Which is BS- she never cooked. They eat out almost every single night.)
He had some vacation time he needed to use up, so he took the bait and went to her home. His mom's "cooking him a big birthday meal" consisted of her microwaving and defrosting a very bland and simple meal. That's it. Not even a bday cake. They were unable to play their favorite card game because it needs four players, and MIL's husband refused to come play because he was "too sick."
They gave DH a $25 old navy gift card and a soap/deodorant set. And they didn't bother wrapping them. He was so disappointed. We had put so much thought and effort into their bday gifts during the year. For 2011 bdays, MIL and SIL are getting $25 gift cards and a soap set. But then DH started talking about it, and we figured out that's the exact same thing they've given him every year since he moved out. To make it worse, DH ended up with a sinus infection when he got home. And he was so moody and sad/disappointed.