I heard about this story but, until today, had not read it.
What can I say?? Wowza!!
I'm all for good manners and such, but this woman was clearly out-of-line in her condescending tone and scathing criticism of her future DIL. Holy cow...I think I would been hard pressed not to pass it on to my friends. As the DIL of my own MIL-from-hell, I sympathise with the young lady. Sure, she
may have offended her MIL by sleeping in late, telling jokes about the family, etc.; however, to rebuke her in such an elitist and demoralising manner really showed that the MIL was, in truth, the one lacking in manners. My MIL, on the other hand, knows not to say anything to my face because I will (politely) tell her to mind her own business.
I'm also shocked that people are defending the MIL's actions. Her generation and my MIL's think nothing of blurting out their opinions--justified or not--because they feel they are entitled to do so as the matriarch of their family. I'm not sure if this is a particularly British thing, but my parents have never done this to my DH or I. They would have a quiet word with me if it was something that serious. I'm also taken aback by her TOTAL lack of empathy in regards to the young lady's medical condition. Diabetes is a very serious disease and she should have expected the girl to have particular dietary requirements. I myself have PCOS and my MIL's attitude has likewise been unsympathetic. I've never talked with her about it, but when I had a difficult pregnancy, she was not at all compassionate.
I would love to be a fly on the wall in their homes after the news broke...god knows what this revelation has caused!
Relationships are difficult enough without the overbearing influence of one's in-laws...