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Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #75 on: April 23, 2009, 03:26:43 PM »
My in laws are really lovely people so hats off to all of you who have some pretty awful people to deal with! But, as lovely as they are, they do get on my nerves occasionally.

When they were in America for the wedding everything was great with them getting from place to place (they didn't have a car, so they were on public transport), but when we were with them they were completely reliant on us and it was exhausting. We took the metro in DC from their hotel in Bethesda and got off at Metro Center. This is one of the largest (if not the largest) metro stations, so it's confusing determining which exit to take to end up on the appropriate street. We get off the train and they're all staring at me to tell them which way to go. Uh, I don't know! This is my first time in this station too! At one point it felt like we were walking in a circle. I think some snide comments were being made, but hey, they didn't try to figure out the right way to go! Trying to decide a restaurant for dinner was the same. Everyone's staring at me to make the decision, because no one else can have an opinion. The thing that is so annoying is that they are FINE when we're not there. Maybe it takes them asking someone for directions or something, but if they can get from Baltimore to Bethesda via public transportation, they can do anything! We were with them for 3 days in DC and I was exhausted by the end of it. They thought we were also going to spend the couple of days with them in Baltimore, but I nipped that in the bud. 


Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #76 on: April 23, 2009, 04:32:30 PM »
I second this 100%!
Living with in-laws isn't good.

I third this.  I'd rather live in a tent.


Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #77 on: April 23, 2009, 04:51:38 PM »
I third this.  I'd rather live in a tent.

I completely agree. My in-laws are wonderful and we get along really well but I could never live with them. Even for a visit about three days is my limit.


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Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #78 on: April 23, 2009, 05:02:04 PM »
I lived with mine for 8 months straight - twice. Wouldn't willingly do it again but what kept me going was knowing that it could be much, much worse.

Right now though, if my husband were a UKY member, he'd be happy to post here as we're now living with MY mother!
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Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #79 on: April 26, 2009, 12:32:07 PM »
I think that living with others in general is hard, let alone the parents of your spouse.

I lived with my MIL for over two months and that was plenty enough. To add to it she lived in a small villiage that did not even have a bus stop, or corner shop..nothing.

I feel so glad we have our own place. I agree I would rather live in a tent then live with the in-laws!



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Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #80 on: April 26, 2009, 03:35:35 PM »
I now get along great with my FMIL..but when I my fiance and I first started dating she absolutely hated me...I think she disliked me because I was American and all she knew about Americans is what she had seen on TV...so she thought I was spoiled and after her sons money...and the other reason she didn't like me is because I don't think she thought I was good enough for her son (but is any woman ever good enough for her son? lol) 3 years into the relationship she finally accepted me and now we are good friends..but in the beginning it was rough and she scared me...now the only other issue I have is with my future brother in law...he knew we were getting married in August of this year in Pennsylvania. He knew this a year and a half ago. He didn't even try to find a way to come. He made some lame excuse that he has to let his job know a year in advance about his vacation and then he said they wouldn't have enough money to come (his mother offered to pay for him and his wife to come)...the reason he has no money is he spends it on every frivilous thing that comes down the road...designer sneakers he never wears...if a bigger tv comes out he has to buy it...he wastes every penny he gets...and the amount of money he spends on wine...I believe he drinks about 3-4 bottles a day himself(that is a whole other story in and of itself) So he makes the lame excuse that he can't be there for his brother because he didn't ask for off in time and doesn't have enough money...and 3 days after he told us that he was bragging to me that he paid 1000.00 pounds to get tickets to see U2 in Wales in August..and guess what he had to take a few days off for that...so it appears to my fiance that his brother cares more about a band then he does him...I am really mad at his brother for being so selfish...I am very protective of my fiance and the whole rest of his family is coming nd this brother never made an effort...this was a great thread to vent on
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Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #81 on: April 27, 2009, 03:04:39 PM »
My MIL called last night (she still hasn't mastered the 3 hour time difference  ::)) and asked DH if we were having a kid yet.  ENOUGH ALREADY!  >:( ::)


Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #82 on: April 27, 2009, 03:06:29 PM »
My MIL called last night (she still hasn't mastered the 3 hour time difference  ::)) and asked DH if we were having a kid yet.  ENOUGH ALREADY!  >:( ::)

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Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #83 on: April 27, 2009, 04:08:06 PM »
My MIL called last night (she still hasn't mastered the 3 hour time difference  ::)) and asked DH if we were having a kid yet.  ENOUGH ALREADY!  >:( ::)

Our MIL's were separated at birth, I'm sure of it!  DH receive that call at least every other month for seven years.

In fact, I think that's part of the reason it took so long for us to get around to having a kid! ;) ;D


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Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #84 on: April 27, 2009, 05:07:33 PM »
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I SO wanted him to tell her 'Oh yeah, sorry we forgot to mention it.  The kid's 3 months old already.'   ::)


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Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #85 on: April 27, 2009, 05:08:28 PM »
Our MIL's were separated at birth, I'm sure of it!  DH receive that call at least every other month for seven years.

Add that to the gift giving, and I think you're right!


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Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #86 on: April 30, 2009, 12:41:30 PM »
My MIL just started that question  ::). I was queasy from a new medication and I assured her it's just the medication, she's like 'ohhh too bad'. She's come out and asked me a few times...sigh. I can see it only gets worse lol.




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Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #87 on: April 30, 2009, 02:25:58 PM »
FMIL offered to let me use her wedding dress. BF and I aren't engaged yet. And while it's sweet of her to offer, I don't want to wear a dress from a marriage that didn't work (she and bf's dad are divorced). Somehow that just seems like bad luck!

BF's step-dad's family lives in the same town as bf and I. He has it in his head that he wants me to help "watch" his elderly mother. The man is a jerk and I don't want to get involved with him family that much. And I have a 480 hr internship, and I have to do a senior research project, and put together a portfolio between now and August. I just don't have time for any type of job. I've tried saying "thanks but no thanks" at least 5 times, but he won't let it drop.  ::)
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Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #88 on: April 30, 2009, 03:11:42 PM »
FMIL offered to let me use her wedding dress. BF and I aren't engaged yet. And while it's sweet of her to offer, I don't want to wear a dress from a marriage that didn't work (she and bf's dad are divorced). Somehow that just seems like bad luck!

BF's step-dad's family lives in the same town as bf and I. He has it in his head that he wants me to help "watch" his elderly mother. The man is a jerk and I don't want to get involved with him family that much. And I have a 480 hr internship, and I have to do a senior research project, and put together a portfolio between now and August. I just don't have time for any type of job. I've tried saying "thanks but no thanks" at least 5 times, but he won't let it drop.  ::)

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But are you even the same size? And surely it would be out of style? And part of the fun is picking your own dress?
If it was a really nice one (like a grandmother's lace dress) and you were allowed to cannibalize it for material that would be kinda nice, but it sounds like she just wants to stick you in her horrible dress! Which would be rubbish!

And don't get me started on your boyfriend's step dad, who from what I remember is the smoking jerk when you have asthma right? gah!

Can we vent about our own mothers in here? Mine is being awful lately. I don't know why but just really b*tchy and mean and manipulative. Go away! 


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Re: The official UKY inlaw venting thread
« Reply #89 on: April 30, 2009, 03:18:50 PM »
???

But are you even the same size? And surely it would be out of style? And part of the fun is picking your own dress?
If it was a really nice one (like a grandmother's lace dress) and you were allowed to cannibalize it for material that would be kinda nice, but it sounds like she just wants to stick you in her horrible dress! Which would be rubbish!

And don't get me started on your boyfriend's step dad, who from what I remember is the smoking jerk when you have asthma right? gah!

Can we vent about our own mothers in here? Mine is being awful lately. I don't know why but just really b*tchy and mean and manipulative. Go away! 

Yes - that is the smoking jerk. Thus why I don't want to work for him/his family.  And her dress is from the 1970's. It's was pretty and stylish then. I have no idea what size she was. My own mother got married in the 1980's and her dress is extremely '80's. I don't think I've ever seen sleeves that big/puffy before. It was a great, stylish dress then, but I wouldn't want to wear it now! And you're right. I want my own dress. I had bf tell his mom thanks, but I kinda already had another dress in mind (ie not that one).

You have my sympathy on the mom thing. My mother has been driving me nuts. (which is nothing new! There is a reason I live 6 hrs away.) Maybe we should start and "official UKY mothers/family venting thread"?
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