What deals or trade offs have you made with your SO?

My SO and I have talked about me doing the cooking as long as she does the dishes. We're both pretty happy with this deal. What have you and your SO done like this?

Exactly the same, with me and Steve. I can't cook to save my life, and he's pretty awesome in that regard, but he hates cleaning up. So, he'll do the cooking (he doesn't mind it, and wishes he had more time to do it because he enjoys it), and I don't mind getting my hands soapy, or throwing a load of laundry in or anything so it works I think while I'm unemployed (which will prolly be a while with the luck I have), I'll end up doing the housework to make up for it, while he goes to work--he says that's fine as well, since he doesn't have a ton of time to take care of the rest of the stuff and he can take care of the house on his salary alone for now. And I don't necessarily mind doing it, so it's all cool

Ours is kind of odd- I don't wear earrings around him, and he wears undershirts around me. 

Ours is kind of odd- I don't wear earrings around him, and he wears undershirts around me. 

Haha, I read that in the undershirt thread. That's what inspired me to make this topic. That's a funny one

I hate dishes more then anything but we both love to cook so...

If he does the dishes I clean the toilet lol. I'd rather do toilets then dishes. 

I hate dishes more then anything but we both love to cook so...

If he does the dishes I clean the toilet lol. I'd rather do toilets then dishes. 

I don't mind toilets either, actually I mean, as long as you're not a total slob it's okay, it's not like we stick our bare hands in there or anything Steve hates dishes only because they're boring--he hates to stand around and do boring stuff, so he can do the cooking instead, at least until I adjust to a gas cooker 

I don't mind toilets either, actually I mean, as long as you're not a total slob it's okay, it's not like we stick our bare hands in there or anything Steve hates dishes only because they're boring--he hates to stand around and do boring stuff, so he can do the cooking instead, at least until I adjust to a gas cooker 

You should have seen me lose it when I couldn't figure out why our oven didn't go past 200 lol. I was like "GARETH wtf is wrong with this oven I can't cook chicken in this?!?!!?"

Besides DH making the money and me spending it  , I do most of the cooking and DH does most of the washing up and always after dinner.

Besides DH making the money and me spending it  ...

That works for us too! 

He works full-time, I work part-time so I do more stuff around the house - all the laundry, most of the cleaning, being our construction site 'project manager' for all the fixing up & renovating of our house (planning, prioritising, contacting - arranging - supervising & paying the builders/etc).  We share the cooking - taking turns, but he prefers to do most of the cooking because he enjoys it (we are both good cooks), and he does almost all of the washing up because I hate that job.  He does the gardening.

Besides DH making the money and me spending it  ,

Bingo!

He works outside the home and I don't, so I take care of all the around-the-house chores (cooking, cleaning, etc.) - with the exception of putting the bins out and cutting the grass.

Bingo!

He works outside the home and I don't, so I take care of all the around-the-house chores (cooking, cleaning, etc.) - with the exception of putting the bins out and cutting the grass.

Same here. I don't mind the traditional roles. They work for us and I can always ask him to do something and many times he does things without me asking. Last Friday, I had to work and he had the day off, so he cleaned the entire house while I was away. I definitely traded up. My ex-hole wouldn't lift a finger even though we both worked full time. 

I can't think of any that we've formally made.  I do lots of stuff.  I order him about.  He takes the rubbish out and makes bacon sandwiches for Sunday tea.  He does most of the driving (unless it's picking up a child early in the morning).  I deal with the kids stuff, but he takes them to the dentist and makes the phone calls.  He makes all the phone calls.  We both feed the cats.  We both deal with his mother. If something big needs doing we do it together.  We do the grocery shopping together.  He's never cleaned a bathroom in his life.  I do all the laundry because he BROKE the last washing machine.  He pays for petrol.  We take turns paying for food.  But I can't think of anything that I do in return for him doing something else.  Maybe we do.

Same here. I don't mind the traditional roles. They work for us and I can always ask him to do something and many times he does things without me asking. Last Friday, I had to work and he had the day off, so he cleaned the entire house while I was away. I definitely traded up. My ex-hole wouldn't lift a finger even though we both worked full time. 

I don't work outside of the house either and do my best to keep all ship shape, but hubby will always do the odd dish that in the sink or wiping down the hob and pressing his shirts if they're dry and I'm busy with something else. But, my 'ex-hole' stayed home sleeping all day and drinking all night and I worked 50+ hours a week and he never lifted a finger either, unless he was scratching his b@lls.

he never lifted a finger either, unless he was scratching his b@lls.

lol Sorry you had to go through that!

lol Sorry you had to go through that!

7 years of hell, verbal, emotional & physical abuse...But, my life here just makes it seem like a long ago nightmare that, as long as I don't think about it, is fading more and more each day. I lived, that's more than I can say for some other women that have been through the same thing.

Thanks...