What deals or trade offs have you made with your SO?

Yeah, I'm out of work courtesy the Home Office, too. So I do as much of the housework as he'll let me. It only seems right.

And *still* he does most of the cooking, all of the grocery shopping (because he actually enjoys those things), starts the washing and loads the dishwasher (because he's up later'n me, when the rates go down)...and of course, all the driving, bill paying and money earning.

I'm totally not the housewife type, but I feel a wretch for not having a bigger share.

Yeah, I'm out of work courtesy the Home Office, too. So I do as much of the housework as he'll let me. It only seems right.

Same, though I don't do housework because we live with our in-laws, and MIL's house is just-so.  I do the cooking as much as I can, and run errands and stuff. 

When DH and I lived by ourselves, I did all the cooking and he did the washing up, but there was never a formal agreement between us.  He used to finish work before I did, and when I got home I'd find the kitchen sparkling clean 

I know...a few weeks ago I took DD & met up with another UKY'er and DH had gotten home before us and dinner was ready and the kitchen spotless! He even put away the laundry...It's really nice to be in a relationship that is not one sided.

7 years of hell, verbal, emotional & physical abuse...But, my life here just makes it seem like a long ago nightmare that, as long as I don't think about it, is fading more and more each day. I lived, that's more than I can say for some other women that have been through the same thing.

Thanks for sharing that and I'm glad to hear that your life there is helping you forget your previous life. I'm pretty sure that is another big factor on my list of Why I Want to Move to the UK. It's a fresh start and I'm hoping to meet my own DH  that isn't a jackass and abusive like the men I've encountered here in the States. BTW I'm a domestic violence counselor as well as a survivor so if you ever want to chat just send me a PM. I'm never too far away from the UKY world. 

DH does the "icky" chores- cat litter, cleaning the toilet, etc.  He also takes out the trash and does the washing up most of the time.  I do the laundry, general tidying and vacuuming, feed the cat, and take care of the finances.  We split food shopping and cooking.

I work less than my hubby, so I do the cleaning (it's not really such a big job, our place is a small two up-two down) and the laundry, and cook on days I'm not working late.

Hubby takes care of the finances (again, not a huge job there since there isn't much "finance" to manage) and cooks when I don't.

I usually always do the dishes, a job I don't mind in the slightest.  Hubby does stuff in the garden since I'm not really into gardening, but I'll do garden clean-up stuff.

Same here. I don't mind the traditional roles. They work for us

For us, it's less about tradition (i.e., gender-specific roles) and more about what's fair. If I had a full-time job outside the house, things would be very different. But whatever works works!  

For us, it's less about tradition (i.e., gender-specific roles) and more about what's fair. If I had a full-time job outside the house, things would be very different. But whatever works works!  

Yeah, I guess that's what I mean too. They just seem traditional. 

You should have seen me lose it when I couldn't figure out why our oven didn't go past 200 lol. I was like "GARETH wtf is wrong with this oven I can't cook chicken in this?!?!!?"

Hehe, that's awesome Steve has gas marks for his cooker, so I was trying to bake some muffins or something and they needed to be at 375 normally over here--cue me trying to figure out gas marks for 10 minutes until it dawned on me to use the internet. Steve just laughs at me because it's so second nature to him, but I'm used to my lovely electric cooker where I really can't mess anything up 

On that note, Steve's ex-wife is a complete slob, so it's a pet peeve of his to have one person not working while also letting the house go to hell. I've been to her home before (she lives like, five minutes from him since Daventry isn't that huge) because of the kids, and it's been some of the most uncomfortable times of my life Dirty knickers all over the chairs in the kitchen, plates of food from the night before left out, crap everywhere in the front room, tampon wrappers on the floor upstairs--seriously it's gross. He's regaled me with stories of going around the house when they were married with big hefty bags to throw stuff out, or else it didn't get done. At first I thought he was exaggerating when he said if he didn't do the washing up or whatever when he was married, it wouldn't get done; oh no, I can see where that'd be in the realm of possibility. Thankfully I haven't had to use the loo there yet 

But, it has made him a very tidy person as a result, so there you go

My SO and I have talked about me doing the cooking as long as she does the dishes. We're both pretty happy with this deal. What have you and your SO done like this?

This is our arrangement. Though it doesn't exactly balance out, as the cleaning is a bigger chore, so I also clean the bathroom once a week and put away the laundry, while he does the daily maintenance (dishes, vacuuming, etc.) and washes the laundry. Seems pretty fair, I guess.

He doesn't expect me to be his running buddy...I stop nagging him to take yoga with me. We've shaken on it!

Diet. He can go vegetarian, low-sodium, low-fat, low-cholesterol and I will help him, support him and will do my best not to sabotage him, but I will not join him.

Applies the other way too.

I thought of another one, my bf carries all the heavy things when we're travelling and I hug him and tell him how strong he is and how much I love him. 

I thought of another one, my bf carries all the heavy things when we're travelling and I hug him and tell him how strong he is and how much I love him. 

LOL, ours is DH buys me lots of stuff, but I have to carry it to the car.

My BF irons my shirts for work and I wash the day-to-day dishes.  We both HATE the task we don't do so this one is a no brainer.

We are supposed to trade weeks for the house cleaning but I tend to do it (which is a frequent subject of tiffs with us).

We do our own laundry and fianances.