Dating an Englishman (possibly)

I'm about a US size 4 on top, 4-6 on bottom and have boobs and a butt and my waist isn't freakishly small. I'm very short, though.

ETA: Don't you ever think that when men criticise women whose body shapes are different than yours, they are just trying to feed your ego?  I mean, most men aren't going to tell you that they think someone has a better body than you do. Of course they are going to say that your body is nicer. And of course your partner/husband thinks your body shape is the best - they are in love with you.

And of course your partner/husband thinks your body shape is the best - they are in love with you.

Or maybe they just want a sh**. 

I don't.  Nor do most of my friends. 

I don't either; just for the record (have big boobs).  My American friends are in different shapes and sizes from big to small, some are even big on top & small on the bottom, and others are small on top & big on the bottom; all sorts of variations.  Same with the women in the UK when I stop and actually take notice.

And what have we learned?  As Morrissey and The Smiths sang...

As Anthony said to Cleopatra
As he opened a crate of ale :

Oh, I say :
Some girls are bigger than others
Some girls are bigger than others
Some girl's mothers are bigger than
Other girl's mothers...

 

And what have we learned?  As Morrissey and The Smiths sang...

As Anthony said to Cleopatra
As he opened a crate of ale :

Oh, I say :
Some girls are bigger than others
Some girls are bigger than others
Some girl's mothers are bigger than
Other girl's mothers...

 

I saw Morrissey and thought you were going to quote "you're the one for me, fattie..." Love that song! 

I saw Morrissey and thought you were going to quote "you're the one for me, fattie..." Love that song! 

That's good too! 

I just want to say Thank you to all of you...I ran into this forum on accident and I have found it quite informing as well as interesting even with a little humor!

I met a man in Vegas as he was with our group and it has been non-stop since April and he is coming to visit in July and I have obviously never done a LDR with someone in another country so the more people I can read about helps me not feel so alone.  I read someone where you spend so much time "waiting" and I think this is true.

He is a fabulous and I feel this is real but so cautious with the whole you live across the country thing so I just wanted to say thanks!

I love reading this and knowing someone else was/is on the same page ect..

Coming onto this a bit late but I have been LOL'ing for the past 45mins reading this thread. Great responses so far, everyone. I also wanted to add that 34 years ago my parents were in a similar position as the OP - mum being the Brit and dad the American and she's told me that her thoughts were the same as some of the more cautious posts. She'd never dated an American and didn't really want to at the time (lol), whereas my dad had dated many nationalities during his time in the military up to that point. They didn't go through the LDR bit of it, as my dad was stationed in Ipswich and my mum was living in London for nursing school. They ended up dating for over a year and getting married all in England before my dad got his next orders. By that point, of course being married, mum went with him and they've been together ever since!

I've also done the LDR thing with several guys from all over the world - one from Texas, one from England, one from Holland, last one was from Wales - that was the hardest, as we really fell for each other but then he went to Australia for a year and it fizzled a bit. We're still good friends, though. Anyway, this topic makes for a great nighttime read Good luck to the OP on your situation and I'd agree with the caution bit but do enjoy yourself and make the most of your time texting and face to face with your Brit friend!

 I have some snark that I want to add here, but I shall refrain.




This was a very entertaining thread, though!

UK:
Going out on the pull at a club (i.e. for a one night stand or f*ck buddy), is not uncommon and is not associated with university age.  It is more or less what you do until you are ready for a "committment" style relationship.  You would never really ask someone out from a generic place like a grocery store.  Dates, like dinner, are not really done.  If you aren't ready for a committment, you are more apt to casually date someone by inviting them with friends to the pub.

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So what I have learned is until the UK person is ready for a committment, sex and casualness is really the order of the day.  What I consider to be the middle ground -- dating -- is really missed out in the UK.  I found the casualness of sex quite strange to get used to, because it indicates to me some type of committment, but in the UK, that same connotation does not exist.

Again, this is my experience but I have had conversations about this to many of my British friends and they agree with the assessment.  Also to give context, this applies to my friends from about 25 - 35 years of age.  In London.

Very funny thread. Not sure i would agree entirely with the above though. Pubs do play a huge part in the social scene and meeting people but i and many i know have approached people they fancied in shops, in the street or wherever. Nothing worse than making some mutual eye contact or some sort of connection with someone and then regretting not doing something about it. If you then swop numbers and arrange to go out taking them down the pub to meet your friends would not be a great way to start to get to know them. Just the two of you meeting for dinner or a drink would be usual first date. We do 'dinner' in the uk

As far as dating is concerned if your 'going out' with someone then that would usually mean you are not seeing anyone else. Having said that there are many people (myself included) that have no problem with having several 'good friends' and if both people are happy with that arrangement it can work well. Would that be the equivalent of 'dating' in the US?

Another thing, the OP said they made out a LOT but then went on to say they didn't sleep together so whats making out a LOT? I always though if you made out with someone in the US you had shagged....

Another thing, the OP said they made out a LOT but then went on to say they didn't sleep together so whats making out a LOT? I always though if you made out with someone in the US you had shagged....

No, there is a difference!  You can make out a lot without shagging. It's called being a tease. 

Another thing, the OP said they made out a LOT but then went on to say they didn't sleep together so whats making out a LOT? I always though if you made out with someone in the US you had shagged....

I'd say the UK equivalent to making out would be snogging.

Only because I'd call it "fooling around" in the US if there was anything going on below the belt.

I had to teach DH the sex-baseball thing.

I had to teach DH the sex-baseball thing.

There's a sex-baseball thing? 

There's a sex-baseball thing? 

Yeah...1st base, 2nd base, 3rd base...home run