I agree entirely that you came about this the worst way possible. You really need to consider that you walked into a forum full of people who have been going through the motions for far longer then yourself.
We have all worked tirelessly to gain the status we desire in the UK and grow weary of the occasional "Why am I not being given what I am entitled to right this minute" post. I speak for myself but also for the majority of the responses I see to said topics. Maybe I shouldn't.
Obviously a good amount of people would love to have the pleasure of a "shack up" visa but really when you think about it, it's not a good idea for MANY reasons. I will never understand where that sense of entitlement comes from. You may also wish to consider the feelings of people on this board who are currently separated from spouses, partners, children and other loved ones. I say this not to demean your own relationship, but emphasize that there are those far worse off then yourself.
As for the people who come over on work visas, perhaps you need to consider that they have worked extremely hard to achieve their educational and performance back rounds. These skilled professionals often bring expertise or can fill jobs that are currently not being employed by citizens for whatever reason, but are in dire need.
Jobs are very hard to come by in the UK right now (as in other countries) and the attitude that non citizens should be allowed to just come over and work as they please isn't going to bide well with the natural families struggling to feed their children. In fact I don't think it would bide well with those who aren't.
Just my two pence.