Permission from Child's Father

I guess I lied about the last one being my last question...

Does anyone think I should have the letter from my child's father (giving permission for her to travel) notarized? Has anyone else bothered with this? I'm thinking it's slicing hairs myself, but I'd rather be safe than sorry.

Thanks!

The parental permission letter from the father must be notarized or you must have a court order that shows you have sole legal & physical custody.

I got mine notarized to be safe...but I am sure it has been stated here that it doesn't have to be.

Since I had been told by the UKBA that I needed to have sole custody (which may or may not be, strictly speaking, true), her father and I refiled the paperwork so I wouldn't risk any problems. So yes, I do have sole custody...

How does one have a letter notarized? Does he need to sign it in front of the notary? It just seems odd to me, but I'm sure plenty of people have done it before.

In order for a notary to notarize that it's his signature is for him to sign it in front of that person and he will have to show ID as well.

As you have sole custody you don't need the letter of permission, notarised or not.

As you have sole custody you don't need the letter of permission, notarised or not.

Sorry, missed the sole custody part as that information was not included in the original post.

I believe permission is still necessary, even if you have sole custody. I've heard of parents that won't let the custodial parent move just out of the state because it can interfere with their visitation rights.

Luckily we hammered this out months ago! I can't believe it went as smoothly as it did - I would hate to be caught up in a lengthy custody battle.

Sorry, I thought you were asking about UK immigration requirements. You may be right about your state's requirements, probably best to check with a local attorney.

Oh, great! I'm just a wee tad concerned about him changing his mind. He's such a great dad, and I hate to separate them for a year+ (they'll have several week visits three times during that year, but still). He's a great dad, and I know he's going to miss her a lot.

 Ugh. Going through a bad version of this.

 My son's EXTREMELY ABSENT father...(we're talking maybe 10 visits in 5 years, for a total of 20 hours with his son TOPS) was going to sign so my son and I could move abroad, but I think he LOVES his new position of power, with me desperate for his signature..and has now told me that I can move out of state, (back to FL, where my son and I used to live, which is an 18 hr drive from here), but not to England. WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!

 I know if I went to court I could get it approved, but funds and time are so short...I'm gobsmacked. He is so illogical. He plans to move out of state as well, in the opposite direction of Florida! My lease is up, I am unemployed because I was about to move, and I'm just basically screwed. This man is beyond reason. I tried to butter him up by mentioning a school that our son might be able to attend in UK which focuses on maths and computing, and my son is computer CRAZED, and really talented with them. I said it would put him on the fast track to go to a good college...to which Mr. Crap Father replied "He doesn't need to go to college!"...WTFWTFWTF

 I want to cry, scream, go on a stabbing rampage...I will literally be homeless in 7 days, and he doesn't give a s***.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH H

I do not know what to do







(Sorry, I'm just flipping out A LITTLE)



edited to add: I asked him why he was so against us moving to England...and he told me that he hated British people. I asked him if he knew any, to which he responded "No, but I know people from East Germany(!), West Germany(!), and Arabia(?!?!?!?).
No joke.
 
 I got pregnant as a young and very sheltered high school sophomore, and he had just graduated (how, I do not know). I no longer date complete and insufferable idiots. Swear.

The only advice I can give is DON'T flip out - having you wrapped around his finger is going to make his overblown sense of power more extreme.

If you can prove he's only visited your son for 20 hours in 5 years, the courts will grant you sole custody, easy (assuming you don't already have it). He can't keep you in one place if he hasn't been involved in his son's life. If you already have sole custody, I would contact a lawyer ASAP to find out what your options are... but please, don't make it worse by begging for his signature.

Good luck - it sounds like you're pressured for time, but I hope you get it worked out.

I have a very similar question so hope it's okay if I add mine here (I'm new here )

I have no formal custody agreement with my daughter's father - we were never married, and he has only seen her once in the past nine years. He currently lives in NZ while I am in Australia. I understand I need a letter from him in order to apply for a settlement visa for my daughter - what exactly should it say, and who needs to sign it? Thanks in advance for any information or advice about this.

The letter from my daughter's dad basically says that he's giving her permission to live with me in the UK for an indefinite amount of time, and also that it's fine for her to travel through Europe (the rest of the continents we didn't include, for no particular reason). It's not very long at all.

Without sole custody I imagine it can be pretty tricky, and was once explicitly told by the UKBA that I had to have sole custody, period, which may not actually be true. We originally had joint custody but re-filed just to make the immigration process easier. You may want to consider this.

I see now that I may not even need a letter from her father, but I'm going to include it just to be safe.

ETA: Also, I believe that the father is the only one that needs to sign the document.

My advice it to put the lawyer's fees an a credit card or borrow the money. Do anything you need to to get the Crap Dad pinned down.
If you don't, even if you get him to sign to the move and all he will always have a hold on you.
You divorced him so he didn't have that anymore, so you never had to ask for his permission again. If you don't cut him off at the knees you will always fear the next email, or phone ring.

I know...