thank you webyj for your reply,thats a good reply phewww,i forgot to say she also has a bit more than that,she has to sell her car,plus furniture from her apartment,i have made enquieres here,and i dont loose my benefits even when she comes with that amount,only thing that happens is we pay full rent ( i already pay 15 pounds a week rent ) and of course full council tax,i run a car and with utility bills payed i still have 60-00 a week for food,plus saving for my trips to go and see her,this has been a 8 year relationship,so we hope febuary will go well for us...thanks again for a quick reply