Yes, but the connotations and subtle nuances typically depend upon context, which is why trying to issue blanket instructions to avoid this word or that word is silly, except where the word is clearly offensive by itself.
"Stop acting like a child," could cause mild offense because it carries a suggestion that the person you are saying it to is acting stupidly for his age.
"I was just a child when we moved to this town," is a completely neutral statement of fact.
I understand that you find some changes in language unnecessary or disturbing, but if you prefer to isolate words from their context or disregard the context, then you will always be angry about this.
You accept that language changes over time. Well, how do you think it changes? By little steps, by documenting how words change and putting them into guides such as this one, which is in no way is binding over anyone. How is the Warwickshire Police’s handbook any different from a variety of English language usage and style guides that instruct us how to speak or write?
The problem here as I see it is the failure to take into account the fact that the label, not the word, ‘child’ or ‘youngster’ can have a negative connotation for some people. Using your example, saying “you’re acting like a child” could either be a negative or a positive depending wholly on who is saying it and how and the person it’s said to.
Most Teenagers do not like to be considered children or to be called a child, even if they are exactly those things, and many adults in their 20s look like they’re in their teens, and the older one gets the more so it seems.
Can you at least see how calling someone a ‘child’ and ‘youngster’ can lead to misunderstanding, when the child in question does not consider him or herself as such, or could possibly even be an adult? Can you at least consider that it could add to the tension when a police officer is interacting with a group of children?
How about calling a 12-year male child a boy, which he most certainly is? Seems innocent enough and correct, right? What if the 12-year-old male is black? Still accurate, but the term could be wholly misconstrued and for good reason.
‘Child’, ‘kid’, or ‘youngster’ may be nouns, but when they are used to label, they act more like adjectives because they are being used as descriptions.
Using ‘young person’ instead may or may not become the preferred term, but to me it is more accurate. A child may not be a kid or a youngster and vice versa but children, kids and youngsters are all young people, which doesn’t yet have a negative connotation, though maybe in a decade or two it might and the language will evolve again and another term will be thought to be better suited.
So are you trying to say that you consider it inappropriate to use the word queer when a homosexual person is present regardless of context and intended meaning?
In some situations, using the word wouldn’t be appropriate and it doesn’t matter whether a gay person is present or not. The meaning and the usage of the word has changed over time and it no longer means just ‘odd or strange’. I prefer to use ‘odd’ or ‘strange’ myself, but if you prefer to use it, I won’t think you’re queer.
