We’ve had some posts here about noisy neighbours, but what do you do in the opposite situation – when a neighbour complains about sounds that aren’t unreasonably loud?
DH and I recently moved to a terraced house that is the second house from the end.
The day after we moved in, our neighour in the end house, an elderly man, introduced himself to DH. He explained that his wife has COPD and is sometimes up at night coughing, plus the medication that she takes gives her insomnia, so she needs quiet.
Fine, DH and I aren’t loud partiers. We didn’t think there would be a problem.
The following Sunday morning, we receive a knock on our door. It’s the neighbour, asking if the previous night, we had been disturbed by the loud music playing from the flat across the street at 4 in the morning – not next door, or even in the same row of houses – but across the street.
DH and I are both extremely light sleepers, and we had heard nothing.
I told neighbour that I hadn’t been disturbed at all.
Neighbour then said that he would “have words” with this guy because this had happened repeatedly and he was becoming a nuisance.
Then this Sunday morning, there was another knock at our door. It was our neighbour again. This time, he said he wanted to speak to us about the noise that we were making.
Now, DH recently got a home entertainment system, and he turns it up quite loudly during the day. However, he does turn the volume down when it gets late.
Just in case, I asked the neighbour if the problem was the TV, thinking that if it was I would simply let DH know, he would lower the volume, and problem solved.
However, the neighbour said it wasn’t the TV, it was that we were slamming doors at 4:00 in the morning.
Well, we weren’t. To me, slamming doors sounds like DH and I had a big row and were storming into different rooms, slamming the doors behind us. That just didn’t happen.
Now, I use the loo many times at night due to fibroids and I may have opened and closed the bathroom door a few times, but I definitely never slammed it.
Neighbour said to me that I’m new here so I probably don’t realise it, but the way these houses are built everything echoes and noises are magnified.
So WTF does that mean? That I can’t move around in my own home comfortably without worrying that I’ll disturb my neighbours?
To put things into perspective, I recently suffered from insomnia that was so severe and disabling that I had to leave a job because of it. Yet I have never in my life complained to someone about noise unless it was after hours and the noise was something like music being played so loudly the walls and the ceiling were shaking.
If I’m being kept awake by a sound – and I’ve been woken up by the sound of a cloth rubbing against furniture - but the person making the sound isn’t being unreasonable, I just do the best I can to try to fall asleep and if not, I just deal with not sleeping. It’s
my problem, not someone else’s.
We are invited to a New Year’s party in someone else’s home - nowhere near where we live – and DH is already concerned that this neighbour is going to complain about our walking in our front door – not making any loud noises, just walking through the door - at 3AM on New Year’s Day.
I’m concerned because we are renting and our tenancy agreement says that we can’t make noise after 11 PM (which I agree is reasonable). Can our neighbour, who is head of the neighbourhood watch, get us in trouble with our letting agency or our landlord?