I just flew from Dublin to JFK on Sunday on Aer Lingus and also had a slightly different experience than the OP. We connected to Dublin from Edinburgh, so that may have had something to do with it - not really sure. Either way, we flew into Dublin and then passed through Irish immigration control, where my passport was stamped and the IO hand-wrote in "I.T.", presumably for in-transit. We walked over to the terminal for our US flight, where we passed through security again, but we never received the blue US customs form, and definitely were not stamped into the US. I do remember noticing that most of the other passengers on our flight already had the customs form, and I was wondering why we never got one. Once we arrived at JFK, we went through US immigration and customs as normal.
Perhaps it's different if you don't arrive in Dublin via a connecting flight, but I found the whole process to be pretty standard. (Except the part where I was mocked by the security agent for forgetting that I had bought a bottle of whisky at the duty-free shop, but that's a whole different story...
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