Need some advice on applying for spousal visa!!

So why not send your wife then if she's more employable than you?

And I'm not sure wether or not to be slightly upset about your comment of:

I'm really worried about money and all these accounts of folks who got in with next to nothing are very encouraging to me.

What people would that be exactly? It's not that we have next to nothing it's just that paying for the visa and all of these other side things takes a lot out of savings as it has done to both my husband and myself. Weddings don't pay for themselves and most of our money went to that, the rest of it has gone to changing my name on all official documents etc and having to apply for the spousal visa.

Maybe I took it the wrong way but it probably doesn't help that it was worded in an odd way.

Good luck with you and yours visa's and moving....

x x x - Missy 

What people would that be exactly?

I both Elle and I stated that we had next to nothing in savings when we applied for our respective visas.

So why not send your wife then if she's more employable than you?


x x x - Missy 

Since his wife would qualify for the spousal visa, that means she can't go without him.  He's the one with British citizenship, so he needs to be in the UK for her to get her spousal visa.  She can't get a spousal visa because she is married to a British man who resides in the US.  He needs to be there first, so she can go.

And since you are not yet in the UK, I would hardly think that Jim's comment about "folks who got in with next to nothing" would actually apply to you in any way, shape, or form.  You did say you were worried about whether or not you have enough money.  I think he was trying to give you an encouraging response to your concern.

Hmm...ok it was just a statment - no need for everyone to jump on me. 

I'm in the same boat as others before me and others currently going through this. I was on another site and left because people just began bashing others on what they were doing. So you'll have to excuse me if I am a bit skidding, however...I just wanted it made clear not to sound rude or anything but I didn't want to end in the same boat as the last forum I was on 

I'm on here for help so again you'll have to excuse me, I am a bit aggitated being away from my husband and eager to get back...this is a very diffcult time for me.

Again, my apologies.

Nobody's trying to jump all over you, we're just trying to point out that it doesn't appear to us that Jim's comment was directed at you, and so there was no need for you to be offended by it.

If you look around this forum, you'll see that it's a very friendly place.  We generally don't tolerate people who jump all over other people and pick fights, so you can relax and enjoy yourself without worrying about whether or not someone is making digs at you.

As far as getting back to see your husband, I wouldn't worry so much.  There is a clearly defined process, and if you follow it, you should be fine.  We can help you, as can the large amounts of info found on the immigration websites that elle and others have provided for you.  They outline the process pretty clearly.

Do your research, get your forms together, fill them out, take a deep breath, and send them in!  Everything will be fine.

I have researched myself to death LoL!! All of the sites and information swimming around in my head, which is why I tried to find a forum where I could talk to people who had actual experiences with it all. As I'm sure the consulate in NY and the one my husband is in contact with in London is probably pretty sick of hearing from both of us!!

Really interested in what everyone has had to say on here and the positive feedback I have gotten already. I would love to stick around here and be able to help people through this process once I have completed mine. As I already feel good being able to help someone else on here who has had some entry clearance problems as I had in the past.

I'm going to read over some more of the information I've been given in this thread when I have a day off of work...inbetween talking to my husband and trying to sort through paperwork and expenses the application has been tossed to the side. However, today I pulled it out and filled in all that I could right now (not dating anything of course) And trying to review some of the things that need to be sent off with it of course.

Is length of time of knowing your partner and/or how many times you've visited eachother play a big part in this at all? I noticed it was a question on the application but it was a question on my visitors visa as well..ta!!!

x x x - Missy 

Is length of time of knowing your partner and/or how many times you've visited eachother play a big part in this at all? I noticed it was a question on the application but it was a question on my visitors visa as well..ta!!!

x x x - Missy 

They will want to know that you've met your husband.  I believe the reasoning for this is to stop "mail order bride" type stuff from happening.  My husband and I knew each other online for a year and a half but had only spent a total of 10 days together before becoming engaged.  We were fine.  You will be too.  Stop stressing!

LoL I'm trying Elle - really!!

My husband and I have known eachother for almost two years but the two week holiday I had there was the first time we met and also the time that we got married in. I just want to be able to make the immigration officer see how in love we are and no matter the amount of time we have spent together it wouldn't have changed our feelings for eachother at all...only have made them stronger.

If they talk to my hubby they'll be on the phone with him for ages as once he gets talking about me it's hard to get him to stop. *giggles*

But I'm trying to calm down, I promise   

x x x - Missy 

LoL I'm trying Elle - really!!

My husband and I have known eachother for almost two years but the two week holiday I had there was the first time we met and also the time that we got married in. I just want to be able to make the immigration officer see how in love we are and no matter the amount of time we have spent together it wouldn't have changed our feelings for eachother at all...only have made them stronger.

If they talk to my hubby they'll be on the phone with him for ages as once he gets talking about me it's hard to get him to stop. *giggles*

But I'm trying to calm down, I promise   

x x x - Missy 

Keep in mind, though, they don't really care how much in love you are.  I do understand.  You want to make it known that you are genuine.  Really, you'll be fine.  It sounds like you have had more time with your husband than I did with mine before we married, so really, you'll be good to go.

Now take some deep breathes and remind yourself that it will all be ok.  Once you've gone through the process and get your visa, you'll be telling everyone, "That was so easy!  I don't know what I was so stressed about!"  Because we ALL say that.  

Hey, yeah -- I sure didn't mean for what I said about money to offend anybody! All I know is I've never had any! And I really won't have money once we've paid all our fees. AND we just got married, too -- done/doing name changes -- all of that. I was only trying to demonstrate common ground, and state that all the common ground I've found on this forum has really helped me and given me some courage when my heart was just about to get overwhelmed!

I also might have been referring to comments made on the many other threads on a similar subject - threads which have made me woefully addicted to this website - where a number of people have volunteered that they didn't have as much money as they would have felt comfortable having in making such a big leap as well as possibly forfeiting the $490 Visa app fee if they were rejected...

And, heartened as I am, I'm still quite scared. So I hope you'll forgive me if I accidentally offended you, the last thing a lowly painter such as myself would ever wish to do is to disparage someone's net worth -- since most people I meet on the street make at least double or triple what I do!

I also really feel for you in being separated from your love. My wife and I actually haven't got to that stage yet, and though we're really excited about the move, we know that it will be very, very difficult. Look for me on a 'depression' thread in September!

Amigos?

and...

Since his wife would qualify for the spousal visa, that means she can't go without him.  He's the one with British citizenship, so he needs to be in the UK for her to get her spousal visa.  She can't get a spousal visa because she is married to a British man who resides in the US.  He needs to be there first, so she can go.

... Thank you Saf! for finally helping me put that in a nutshell. I may start using your answer verbatim to tell people here in the US what I'm trying to do. My mother still thinks I need a work-permit to live there, my dad forgot he was a British Citizen, and everybody wonders why we can't go together! So thank you for your clarity!

I think this would also be as good a place as any for me to say how much I love the UK-Yankee crowd!

Sorry mate, that was a mixture of stress and being over-worked. I'm not normally so quick to jump to conclusions like that and generally pry more information out of people if I think I have gotten it wrong. But in the last two weeks I've worked 100+ hours at work, trying to get as much money together as possible trying to get back to my husband.

It is rather rough on both of us having to be apart. This Saturday will mark a month for he and I that we have not seen eachother. Since being home I threw myself completely into work trying to get some money and my husband has done the same at his job, working 12+ hours a day. He's a real star....I'm so pleased that he's as eager to get me back out there as I am to get back out there.

Again, I hope you'll accept my apology...it's not only been a rough week but a rough month. Hopefully by September he and I will be together. Ta...ciao!!

x x x - Missy