He Just Left

Very nice! What part of England are you living? My Fiance's family lives near Kingston. We (well me over the internet) are looking for apartments/flats in that area very soon! I'm so excited!

How did you meet your husbands?

I live up north, in Northumberland. Between Newcastle and Scotland. I'm pretty far from where you will be living. I met my husband online playing around on Second Life.. hehe. Well, I had an excuse - I was on there because of my graduate course on virtual worlds for my art and technology degree and he was there just checking it out because some friend of his mentioned it. Somehow among millions of people on there, we just bumped into each other and started chatting. And then we started emailing. Then we started talking over Skype. Then I dragged my best friend with me to London to meet him a few months later! We traveled back and forth for less than a year, got married in the states, and I moved over here to be with him 2 months later, once I had my spousal visa and had finished my coursework. I've been living here for a year and a half now. I love it here! I hope you will, too!  Good luck with everything!

I remember those tearful goodbyes all too well, even though I've already been here about 4 months or so The last time I left Birmingham, my husband started crying, which is saying a lot since that's the only time I've ever seen him cry; he told me later that he cried all the way from the security gate to his car, and I know the only reason I sucked it up and stopped crying was because I had to go through security and didn't want to make a scene.

I found it extremely helpful to look forward to the next step in our relationship, be it a visit or when my husband came to the States to get married. It's best to just keep looking forward to the next time you can see him, and busy yourself with as much as you can until you guys can be together for good--it may feel like you'll never get there, but you will and you can look back on those tearful goodbyes as something of the past

With that said, sometimes those memories haunt me a little, and I get a little sad about how much crap we went through to get here--but IMHO, it makes the relationship and the marriage just a little bit sweeter, and in my case I feel like me and my husband appreciate each other just a tiny bit more since we went for about 3 years living apart before we got married and sorted my visa out. We met on an online roleplaying website way back when I was in high school, and he was married to his first wife--we spoke very casually for about 4 or 5 years due to the time difference (about 8 hours). We got a lot closer and started talking a lot more in 2005 when his first wife left him and I was finishing up medical assisting school, and he came out to the US for his first visit in 2006--the rest just kinda happened on it's own, and here we are after 4 years of being together (and about 7 months of being married)

Tams - some things are just meant to be and I believe this....

Tams - some things are just meant to be and I believe this....

I sometimes think that myself, especially with me and my husband. I say that since I fancied him way back when we first started talking--I thought he was kinda cute, and he was a nice enough bloke online, but I figured there was no way there'd ever be anything more than just a casual online friendship. So, I went on with my life and he did his thing in the UK since I never let on that I liked him So in some weird way, maybe it really was meant to be in some odd way, it just took a few years for it to come full circle.

But then again, I think a lot of our stories are ones where things just end up being meant to be

YAY! Maria!! I'm glad you found me hah!

Syntax...I once went 7 whole months WITHOUT seeing him. That sucked!! Hopefully you will see your gf sooner than later...but at least you know the most it COULD go is 7 months. You can do it!

What Uni are you going to?

I know exactly what you mean about mentally being in the UK. I feel ya! I start student teaching in March in the UK so I'll get to see him in March!

Have a good time with your gf. I hope it goes by SLOW.

Vincent and I did 9 months between our first 2 visits. It was hell. I kept a diary that I wrote in every time I missed him and gave it to him for his birthday. He still has it in the drawer at our new house. It makes me feel both happy and sad when I see it. That was such a tough time, but things are so wonderful now.

I went 9 months once too and forgot!!! The first time I met him was in Germany at a conference. It may sound silly but I fell for that guy immediately. He looked at me and I melted. Love at first sight?

The next time I saw him was 9 months later. That was first time that we were together in person having "dated" each other for 9 months.

The 7 month period without him was when he didn't get a UK visa and they sent him home to India. That was the WORST!!!!! I had no idea what he would face in India. That was hard...he's back in the UK though...YAY!

I remember that feeling very well. *hugs to you*

The last trip my DH made to me was in 2008, and I sprayed the pillow that he used with his cologne so that I could sleep. And for a while I had all of the stuffed bears he'd given me over the years on my bed, like a little girl. 

It's all been worth it, we were married in October, and we hold on to each other like nobody's business. Even just reading a book, sat on the couch next to him whilst he plays his video game is absolute bliss.

Even just reading a book, sat on the couch next to him whilst he plays his video game is absolute bliss.

Totally, you just described most of our evenings.  (the alternative is him on the computer next to me while I play computer games).

I really do think the long-distance can make for a solid and loving couple.  You just value each other's presence so much, but you've also learned to operate on your own. 

Oh, we're in Manchester (just follow the road signs to "The North" ). We met at UC Berkeley when a friend of his introduced us. We were friends for about a year before we started dating.

Totally, you just described most of our evenings.  (the alternative is him on the computer next to me while I play computer games).

I really do think the long-distance can make for a solid and loving couple.  You just value each other's presence so much, but you've also learned to operate on your own. 

This is definitely us! I'm a Mac, he's a PC, and both computers are on one giant desk. He has the big chair, I have the wee one! And we just sit next to each other while he plays Call of Duty and I play the Sims, or listen to music, or whatever. But even if I'm lying on the sofa reading a book or watching a movie and he is on his computer, it's just so nice to know he is there.

This is definitely us! I'm a Mac, he's a PC, and both computers are on one giant desk. He has the big chair, I have the wee one! And we just sit next to each other while he plays Call of Duty and I play the Sims, or listen to music, or whatever. But even if I'm lying on the sofa reading a book or watching a movie and he is on his computer, it's just so nice to know he is there.

This is us as well, since both me and my husband play WoW. I'll be on one laptop and he'll be on the other and we'll sit on the couch and play a bit in the evenings and weekends. We don't really have to say a lot, but it's knowing that the other person is there that's comforting--you don't have to tinker with MSN or phone calls just to say I love you, or what's for dinner, or anything like that.

This is one thing I am happy for and don't realize how perfect this will be for us...
I am the computer geek - laptop and desktop
DH can't be bothered unless he has to get on to check email which he will do when he is on the rig.  The only reason he is online when he is home is to Skype with me.

For my Christmas present he got me a brand new computer with 4 gig of memory and fast as lightening plus I have my baby laptop. He said we won't be fighting over the computer because he just doesn't need it. HA perfect!

We are signing up for Sky today to have them install it Friday Jan 29th! YAY

wow I am ranting today huh?

I loved reading through this thread as I've experienced so much of the same things with my boyfriend. I feel lucky as the longest that we've ever spent apart after we met was 3 months.  And now it seems things are just getting easier and easier .

After the first time he came to visit me and I dropped him off at the airport, we both cried our eyes out and trust me, he isn't the type to cry. Then he sent me a package a few weeks later with a sweatshirt that he had sprayed his cologne on. I wore that sweatshirt for a month straight without washing it.

I love this website. It's nice to know that others out there have been through or are in the same situation as myself.

I love this website. It's nice to know that others out there have been through or are in the same situation as myself.

The woman are fantastic. The support and advice is second to none!

This forum has helped me mentally and emotional and not to mention made a few FABULOUS friends

This forum has helped me mentally and emotional and not to mention made a few FABULOUS friends

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