Hi,
I am the UK half of this original query and, seeing as the US half is now fast asleep, I'll take over for a little while...
Many thanks to those who have responded so far. Although we realise that it is possible for me to travel to the US on the VWP and marry in the US, with the full intention of returning to the UK after the marriage, and that as you say, 'many people on this forum have', where is the official information confirming this?
All the information we have so far been able to access clearly states the regulations for couples wishing to marry and settle in the US but nowhere can we find anything officially stating that it is permissible to travel under the VWP with the intention of marrying and returning to the UK.
The last thing we want to face is the nightmare of me landing in the US (possibly with children in tow) only to be turned back at the airport because the IO on duty doesn't agree with my cry of 'but everybody does it!'
With the greatest respect to all those offering advice based on far greater experience than ours, I would feel a lot safer if I could see official confirmation.
Assuming that this is indeed the case, presumably it is correct to state my intention, upon entering the US, of marrying and returning to the UK? I have seen some posts (on other sites) which suggest that it is better to not mention the fact that you intend to marry in the US but I am also uncomfortable about this. I can provide documentation of my ongoing work/housing arrangements, along with return tickets, and would prefer to be upfront about everything.