How do you deal with non-support

I told my sister tonight that my husband and I have decided to move to England, and she did exactly what I thought that she would do. She got very angry and hostile with me, she said that she lost me five years ago so does it really matter.

I am wondering if any one else on here went through this as they were preparing for the move to England, and if so how they dealt with it. My sister is my Best Friend and I love her dearly. I want her to be happy and supportive of me and my decision. But I am starting to think that, that will never happen.

My advice, based on a similar reaction from someone I love, is to give them plenty of time to adjust to the idea.  I also inserted a lot of information like how long the direct flight was to London - how important the person is to me - how this won't sever our relationship - how we'll make a concerted effort to see them. 
I hope that she can make the transition and support you - it's not a lost cause!  I think it must be really difficult to be the one who is "left behind" and isn't starting a new adventure. 
Good Luck!

Thank you for the suggestion, I think that I Will give it a try. I am going to have to give my sister some space, because as of right now she wont even answer her phone when my niece used my cell too call her.

Hallie told me that her mommy might be mad at me because I am moving to England. I wish that she would understand that we are doing this for us, not too hurt any one. I love my sister she is my BFF, I need to try too help her understand that I can love her just as much over there as over here. The only thing that is going to change is the fact that I'm not across the hall from her any more.

I have been so excited about the decision that my husband and I have made, and I want every one to be happy and supportive. I've cried a lot, it's going to be hard on me too. I will try your advice and see if that helps.

Thank you

I had problems when Jon and I decided to stay in the UK. We had planned on moving to the US after a year but decided that we preferred it here. My mother didn't take it well and saw it as an attack against her.

Unfortunately nothing I could say or do would have made her see that it had nothing to do with her. It got quite nasty for awhile and we didn't speak for nearly a year but things have gotten better and she now understands. It just took her a lot of time to realise the truth. It was as if she was going through the 7 stages of grief and I suppose in a way she was. She felt she had lost me.

I think UKUrs gave some good advice. Talk about it as much as you can. Maybe make them a part of your plans with the move? It might help them feel like you're not just up and leaving them on their own.

I'm sorry you're having to go through this.

I definately had family memebers who responded this way.  I would suggest that they have the right to thier opinion and you trying to change it will only frustrate you and continue to aggrevate your sister.   I agree with UKU that what you can do is tell her how important your relationship is to her and how important it is that you maintain it. 

Get both of you set up with Skype or what ever you are going to choose and and try and talk a plan through.  She may never understand or agree with your decision, and in my opinion it is a waste of time to try and convince people to your point of view.  Instead work on what you can do to keep in touch with her and her daughter.

Im having a few minor issues with my mom. My dad, brothers, friends, and everyone else are happy for me and are excited, so I guess Im lucky its just one person. She isnt being angry or not talking or anything, but just doesnt want to talk about it. Its absolutely killing me because we are SO close!! If I bring something up, she changes the subject. I already live 1100 miles away from her so its not like a ton will change. Im going to set them up on Skype and give them my Vonage so I will be able to talk to them just as much as I do know (albeit different times). I think this is super common. Good luck with your sister because I know she will come around.

When we first announced our plans to move to the UK, my friends (which are basically my family) were very upset and my very best friend said that it seemed like it was more my fiance's idea than mine. At first I was angry with her for saying something like that but then I understood that she was just sad about losing me. Now, two years later, she's glad that I'm happy here and is going to visit next winter 

I am so glad that I am not the only person to have dealt with this. Every one that I have told is happy and excited about it except for my sister. I think that she has told two of our best friends, but I really can't tell whether or not she has. If she has they aren't saying any thing to me about it.

My sister went three days with out talking to me, we are talking now but England is the Elephant in the room. I am hoping the eventually she will understand that we are doing this to better our lives and this is my choice, not Marks. He has told me that at the end of the day it is completely up to me.

Now I need to tell My niece and nephews, my sisters kids that is a little daunting but I think that they are going to be excited about it. The fact that my parents are happy for us and completely supportive of our decision makes me happy.