Being pregnant

I'm soooo fed up with being pregnant. I've got three more weeks before they'll induce me and good god I wish it was now.

Today I'm really aching. The bump itself just hurts. I think it's Braxton Hicks because it'll go hard every once in a while and then soften up.

Both girls are still very active, which is a very good thing but when they stretch out it's like they're going to pop through the stomach. They're really strong. What is sort of funny is that Twin 2 pushes more so you can see a big difference in the two sides of my bump.

I'm just whinging because I can't believe how uncomfortable I am right now. The worst part is how heavy they are. Walking up the stairs is a chore these days. I'm sleeping on the couch (have been since January) as it's the only place I can get any sleep and having to walk up those damn stairs 2-3 times every night, half asleep, is the most aggravating thing ever!

And I'm starting to get a bit scared. So far I've been unbelievably calm about it and just laid back but I've realised these past few days that I'm starting to feel scared of the labour and of having two babies to take care of. I had it out with Jon last night, I sort of went into a hormonal pity party and told him all my fears while crying. He ended up making me laugh which was good because I don't feel so tearful about it all but I'm still a bit scared.

I'm just venting. I've got nothing else to do. But seriously, I cannot wait until they're here and I can have my body back.

Aw, ((hugs)).  Gah I felt horrible enough with just one, I can't imagine it with two!  Sorry to hear you're having it so tough.  It'll be over before you know it.  Are you on your maternity leave already?  If so, have you tried planning little things to do each day (even stupid mundane things) to look forward to?  Little goals help distract you and keep your mind off it.  When I was pregnant with DD I went to the dentist on my due date.  It was too funny seeing the dentist's face when I said that was my due date.   

I'm just venting. I've got nothing else to do. But seriously, I cannot wait until they're here and I can have my body back.

Unfortunately you don't ever quite get your body back - especially if BF: you're still their domain.     But it is nice once they're out and it's quite a relief but at the same time you miss them being there moving around.  I felt so lonely after DD was born as she was incredibly active.  DS he was a lounge baby in utero and still is on the outside.

Try not to worry on it with coping with babies.  You'll find a way and then you'll totally forget what life was like for you & DH before the girls.

  But it is nice once they're out and it's quite a relief but at the same time you miss them being there moving around.  I felt so lonely after DD was born as she was incredibly active.  DS he was a lounge baby in utero and still is on the outside.

It's funny that you should say that because I keep saying to Jon that I think I'll feel really empty when they're gone, simply because they're so active.

I am on maternity and so far I've been keeping myself fairly busy. We've had a lot of work around the house doing and have a load of deliveries and stuff like that, so I always have something to do each day. I don't fancy going to the dentist, though.

I've got a seminar on Tuesday which I'm looking forward to. It's being done by Tamba and it's about the practicalities of parenting twins.  They can't come before then as I really need to go to this seminar. I keep telling the babies this. So far they've been very good with listening to me when I tell them to do something.

The last few weeks are such a slog!  And there's always fear and anxiety about hte labour and birth no matter how many you've had.

Just take it day by day.

It's dire.

Hang in there.

Awwww, Ashley. I've never been pregnant, so I can't exactly relate. But, gosh, having twins inside you must be really uncomfortable! Poor thing!  But three weeks isn't so long (yeah, I know it is a long time when you are miserable, but in real terms, it isn't too long) so just hang in there. I'm sure it will be difficult to care for two babies at once, but it sounds as if you have a wonderful husband who will help any way he can. Hugs to you!   

But three weeks isn't so long (yeah, I know it is a long time when you are miserable, but in real terms, it isn't too long) so just hang in there.

I know you mean well, but this is something that should appear on the 'Things NEVER To A Pregnant Woman' list, IYKWIM (as well as 'Are you still here?'/'Haven't had that baby yet?', 'Are you having twins?', 'My friend/mum/sister/etc. left the hospital in her pre-pregnancy jeans!', etc.).

 

Hang in there hunnie! I've only got one inside me and Im already getting sick of being pregnant! I keep saying the DH, 9 months is far too long to be pregnant!

I know what you mean about panicking when you actually think about having the babies with you on the outside. I go through 'freak out' stages where i say to DH 'are we really ready for this?, we won't be able to do this, this and this anymore.' and I even find myself getting a bit annoyed when im in Costa Coffee and someone sits down next to me with a screaming baby, which is a bit weird because that will be me in a few months.

Luckily, DH is excellent at re-assuring me and making me laugh and the 'freak out's' only come once every few weeks, and although we may not be able to go out with our friends drinking all the time, our everyday, daily lives will be sooooo much better and sooo much more fun with a little baby around. And its not just any baby, its 1/2 of me and 1/2 of DH which makes me smile 

You'll be an amazing mommy! Try and enjoy your last few weeks of being pregnant, despite how uncomfortable you are. x

I think I'd be surprised if you didn't feel that way! It sounds pretty normal to me. 

Let it 'be what it is' - it's OK to freak out, feel exhausted, annoyed and so on. Just try and do nice things for yourself to ease the physical and emotional stresses and strains as much as you can. You're human and that's OK! 

((Hugs))
 

Poor thing - you are definitely all babies right now, last time I saw you!  Just take it easy & take care of yourself.  And remember, you said you're only doing it once.  HME asked about you (how you are) last night. 

(And don't forget we're your neighbours if you need some help!)

Ashley, I can't even comprehend how it must be for you right now. When I was 5 months with my daughter in 2008 thankfully things didn't get too bad until after I finally moved back to the UK after getting my visa sorted out so I had my husband to lean on (figuratively and quite literally!). I had severe SPD starting at 30 weeks and couldn't sleep for more than an hour at a time before I had to get up and walk around for 5 minutes just to stop the pain...my daughter was breech and loved to dance on my pubic bone so that only made it worse.

As others have said once their born you soon forget it and even though I had a section incision (she never turned) I was in considerably less pain and could walk normally the next day after she was born....but as for sleeping normally? Haven't managed that one since I was 4 months pregnant and she's now 22 months old! Hazards of being a parent.

I know you mean well, but this is something that should appear on the 'Things NEVER To A Pregnant Woman' list, IYKWIM (as well as 'Are you still here?'/'Haven't had that baby yet?', 'Are you having twins?', 'My friend/mum/sister/etc. left the hospital in her pre-pregnancy jeans!', etc.).

 

Haha... okay, sorry. I knew I shouldn't have contributed to this thread since I have no idea what being pregnant is like. But I do extend my empathy, as I can only imagine how uncomfortable you must be. 

Two babies is a big deal!  I would take all the help you can get- if someone offers- even if only to come hold them while you take a shower or get out of the house for 1/2 hr- take it!
I'm terrible at asking for help, but it will really make a difference if you let others carrry the load somewhat.  Don't plan on cooking or cleaning for awhile- let your hubby and friends do that.  Just focus on and enjoy the newborn days.  Hope things go really smoothly and even better than you expect. 

Haha... okay, sorry. I knew I shouldn't have contributed to this thread since I have no idea what being pregnant is like. But I do extend my empathy, as I can only imagine how uncomfortable you must be. 

It can majorly suck at the end even with just one baby.  I can only imagine with two!  Huzzah!  I'd be counting down the days. 

The sleep is the worst of it.  I had monstrous acid reflux with all three, but with Roisin, it was combined with chronic rhinitis/sinusitis so I had to sleep sitting up in a recliner.

The last half of the last trimester really is awful even with one.  With two, you are doubly miserable.  I can only imagine how uncomfortable you are Ashley!

With my first, she dropped 6 weeks before her due date and it was like walking with a bowling ball between my legs, very, very uncomfortable. 

But consider this, you are doing so incredibly well to keep them in every one more minute now and think about what a gift you are giving them by doing so.   Hang in there!!!!  And I agree, make an appointment for your due date - anything to distract you!

I had severe SPD starting at 30 weeks and couldn't sleep for more than an hour at a time before I had to get up and walk around for 5 minutes just to stop the pain...my daughter was breech and loved to dance on my pubic bone so that only made it worse.

Jeezus, that sounds awful. I get the occasional pressure on my pubic bone when twin 1's head moves around but nothing like that! Ugh, I don't think I could cope with that.

Luckily, DH is excellent at re-assuring me and making me laugh and the 'freak out's' only come once every few weeks, and although we may not be able to go out with our friends drinking all the time, our everyday, daily lives will be sooooo much better and sooo much more fun with a little baby around. And its not just any baby, its 1/2 of me and 1/2 of DH which makes me smile 

Jon has been really good when I have my moments. I'm glad I've got his support. I couldn't do it without him.

And we're lucky in that one baby will be mine and the other his. We've decided. What he doesn't know is that I'm giving him the bad baby.

(And don't forget we're your neighbours if you need some help!)

Oh believe me, C, I'm going to be calling on you aaaaaaaall the time, even if it is just to visit and keep me sane.