I have been so busy cleaning, packing, planning, panicking (LOL), reading/researching, selling things, etc. that I have not had time to really "grieve" if you will, my leaving my home and my family. Of what I am afraid is that it will hit me big time within a few weeks of arriving there. For all those who've made the move, was it all you thought it would be -- homesickness, family reactions, your emotions? I know everbody is different, but what were your reactions, feelings?
As some of you know that have read my posts in the past, we have been thinking about this move for 2 years now. Last year when we found out that my parents-in-law were not doing well, it nudged us to move forward. It has been an up and down process and so much as gone wrong with finding a home, finding a job, etc. I tried to let my parents know early on that we planning this so they wouldn't get too emotional, but they did anyway. I'm not going to re-hash all that, but it was very scathing, hateful, hurtful.
I have been letting my parents keep the boys a little bit and they have been saying some strange things to them. When I bring it up, they deny it. I stopped letting them spend extra days with them. All my mom does is cry every time she sees the kids. She says nothing to me. My dad seems alright but mainly talks to my husband and barely says anything to me, like I'm the bad guy. I just feel invisible to them like I don't matter to them at all.
My sister insisted on buying some big items out of my home, furniture, electronics, etc (more than $3000) and now all she does is complain how badly they are financially. I still have yet to get a penny from her and now she is asking what I have left that she can have. I'm insisting I get the money soon so if I have to show funds to the consulate, that it's there in the bank and I can just send off a statement from the bank proving funds. I just feel like she's screwing me around!
I wanted my last couple weeks home to be memorable. I wanted my family to give me well-wishes, not "go-to-hell wishes" LOL. I wanted my dad to share family stories and have bbqs and laugh. All their misery and b.s. just makes me want to leave that much sooner. Those feelings make me feel bad and I know I'm going to regret feeling this way.
I'm going to take pictures of things I'm going to miss and spend my last couple days enjoying what I can even if my family is being adversarial. That's all I can do...
Thanks for letting me vent!