Back from Manchester and so horribly depressed.

@MizzCupcakez - I thought I was the only one from Washington too. Even crazier, looks like you'll be heading to Portsmouth where I've spent most of my visits as that's where DB is from. I just got home from there on Monday night. Crazy small world. What takes you there?

I go through the same things when I return to the US after visiting my fiance in the UK...heck, even when he visits me and then has to leave.  Last time I dropped him off at the airport, I drove home and just cried...it's not easy, not at all.

*hugs*

What I do when I feel lonely and depressed after we part ways is to make sure I have extra phone/chat/email time with my fiance for the next few weeks.  It's not the same as physically being with him, but when we make sure we have that extra hour a day to chat for a few weeks, it does seem to make the separation a tiny bit easier - especially for me as I tend to be the more insecure one in the relationship, and the separation can bring some irrational feelings to the surface for me.

Also, I try to focus that energy into doing something that I know will move me forward in my visa application process, so I can feel like I'm headed in the right direction as opposed to just feeling stuck.  I might do a double check on what documents I'll need for the visa, look into potential companies I might want to work for in the UK to see what kinds of job openings they tend to advertise, make a list of what things I want to ship with me from my apartment and what things I'll sell or donate, etc.

You could try out some of these things and see if they help you; hope you'll feel better soon!  *more virtual hugs*

Also, I try to focus that energy into doing something that I know will move me forward in my visa application process, so I can feel like I'm headed in the right direction as opposed to just feeling stuck.  I might do a double check on what documents I'll need for the visa, look into potential companies I might want to work for in the UK to see what kinds of job openings they tend to advertise, make a list of what things I want to ship with me from my apartment and what things I'll sell or donate, etc.

That's a really good idea! I did that during our last separation and it totally helped. Thanks for reminding me.

As Jewlz says, try to stock up on time with family and friends.  You don't realize how much you miss having them around until they're not around anymore.  The small goals are also a good way to keep yourself distracted.  Anything to keep yourself busy (even if it's just researching the visa process or something that might otherwise be considered boring).

This! I wish I had spent more time with family than working in my last few days in Cali before I was a student. You'll miss home more than you think you will.

I'm sorry to hear you're sad, it's really hard to leave a loved one behind- especially when you won't be seeing each other soon.  I say this in the gentlest possible way, but sometime it helps not to wallow, and to force yourself to buck up and live your life apart from your man.  You'll be together soon, even if it seems like forever now.  My signature is "Wherever you are, be all there," because I feel like even if I am missing my boy from across the country, or ocean- I need to continue to live my life for both myself and him.  To be a good partner, you need to be a good you- first and foremost. 

AMEN Sarah!

It stinks to be apaprt but you really have to stil live your life and carry on. You never want to look back and say I sat in my house miserable without you and I missed X days with friends ect...

Dont plan your life around what will be - plan your life for now ;-)
It will make you a better person to still be you..

Sept isnt far - actually its about 130 something days as I have a countdown to Texas.
huggs hon!

Katrinacov, I am sorry you are feeling down. I know the feeling very well. My Fiance just went back to Manchester this morning and it is always devastating saying goodbye to the one you love. One thing that helps me in moments like this, is to stay focused on my daily activities and get back to the routine. Maybe I am weird but I usually don't get depressed, I see it like this; each day we spend apart is a day closer to being together permanently.

Remember that the distance is only temporary. Hang in there, only a few more months and you guys will be together again

*hugs* Those were always the worst times for us, when either one of us would go get on the plane to go back. 

I don't really have much advice to give. Just reading the OP made me a bit teary-eyed and remembered all the stuff it took for me to get here, just to be with DH. As hard as it can be sometimes, dealing with all of the different cultural stuff, and every day ups and downs,when I'm DH, only being with him is what matters. It's what kept me going when I was in the States, and everyone thought I was a bit quirky and probably off my head for thinking that I could come over here and marry him.

Good luck, Katrinacov! We'll all be here when you're here.

Those 3 1/2 months are going to go by very very quickly.  Don't do like I did and wait to sell your stuff.  I ended up leaving most of it behind cause I just couldn't find the time to get around to selling it. 

Twice we spent 6 months apart before the next visit and believe me, it was pure hell.  The first two times he cried when I had to leave.  Although I didn't cry, I think I picked fights with him just so I could find a way to end the unbearable pain of being apart. 

Hang in there.  It will all be worth it in the end.  Focus on the fact that you will have your first Christmas together very soon!

Steph

Where in Manchester will you be living? I agree it's a great city with lots to do. Am looking forward to moving there.

Im considering several places...city centre, wigan, bolton...

Those 3 1/2 months are going to go by very very quickly.  Don't do like I did and wait to sell your stuff.  I ended up leaving most of it behind cause I just couldn't find the time to get around to selling it. 

Be careful with this too. I actually sold everything I owned on Craigslist in 4 days. It all depends so be sure to time it right. Good luck with you move! When you are here it makes it all worth it.

We'll have to meet up sometime.

We should!

Yes would be cool to talk to someone from the same state there.