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Re: Going out on your own.
« Reply #15 on: May 11, 2010, 09:07:47 AM »
I currently work in a cinema, and more people come alone to watch films than you would think and no one bats an eyelash. So, I wouldn't worry about it. Go out and have fun! :)
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Re: Going out on your own.
« Reply #16 on: May 11, 2010, 09:21:00 AM »
Another happy to go out alone and do things person here.  I like my own company  :)
I travel a lot for work, so I get used to eating out alone.  Hell I moved to the otherside of the world alone, so I guess it couldn't bother me too much.  :P
Anyways, my point is, you're only self concious if you let it be on the forefront of your mind. And if anyone gives you any crap, well getta outta there, you don't want to spend your money there anyways if they're going to treat you like that!
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Re: Going out on your own.
« Reply #17 on: May 11, 2010, 10:40:52 AM »
I say go for it! Honestly its your sanity right?
I do it often but not by choice but its my only real people interaction and I don't mind. I went to the pub on my own sunday night and I had met the owners prior and I had a great time.  It was a much needed change to get out and WALK to a pub have a few drinks and WALK home.

I have a thing for coffee so I will drive to a town 7 miles away to get a good vanilla latte.

I have an iphone so when in doubt I play words with friends or read the news but if I had a book I used to do it all the time in the states b/c sometimes you feel like vegging out and reading and just grabbing a bite to eat.

Go out and have some fun ;-)


Re: Going out on your own.
« Reply #18 on: May 11, 2010, 12:13:39 PM »
I go out all the time on my own. I dont mind at all and dont think I get stared it but then again I dont really pay attention to everyone else. I take a paper or a book or something and just enjoy myself. I think its the same as in the US. If you dont feel comfortable though, you will probably not feel that way. I had to learn on my own how to do it and it did take awhile. I got transferred from Atlanta to Denver and did not know a soul so I had no choice there, same as I dont really have much choice here. It gets easier once you do it a couple of times.


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Re: Going out on your own.
« Reply #19 on: May 11, 2010, 03:15:50 PM »
I like going out alone, but don't do it much anymore. Mainly because there aren't many places to go in my area and the places I would want to go to, I don't exactly know how to drive to yet. But I prefer shopping alone, for groceries and for clothes. I hate to feel rushed and I would rather just take my time and look around and make up my own mind. I don't always need the input of other people to feel good about what I want to buy!  :P In the states, I went out to eat alone quite often and went to the cinema alone a few times. I went to many galleries and museums alone, too. I would sit at coffee shops alone quite often, mainly because I had studying to do in between classes and it was better than going home or hanging around campus. I was a server in a restaurant in the states, and there were quite a few people who came in alone (a few of them were English), and no one who worked there ever thought that was strange, whether they were reading or doing a crossword puzzle or just staring into space. It never seemed weird to any of the servers. I would guess it would be fine to do that here.


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Re: Going out on your own.
« Reply #20 on: May 11, 2010, 08:14:25 PM »
I'm another one who likes to do things alone.  I vastly prefer shopping alone, like Jewlz I don't want to feel rushed and sometimes I go to stores several times before I decide what I want.  I also prefer to see movies alone.  The first time I did that I felt weird, but I concentrate better on the film when I'm not distracted by someone next to me or wondering if they're enjoying themselves, etc.  Just recently, I had a week's holiday but DH had to work, so I explored on my own and found some really lovely places.  I never felt weird and don't think anyone else thought it was strange that I was by myself. 
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Re: Going out on your own.
« Reply #21 on: May 12, 2010, 07:57:20 AM »
It always seemed just normal to me to do stuff on my own.  I never thought there was anything unusual about it, and I didn't think it would be any different in the UK.  However, once when I was backpacking and hosteling around England an Italian guy was sort of in disbelief that I was on my own.  He started sort of super flirting with me and I thought maybe Italian guys flirt like that, or does being on my own equal being fresh meat to some Italian guys?

The only thing I've not done very often on my own is go out to a restaurant.  I would feel awkward with no-one to talk to over the meal.  I do admire those who can do it and think it does take a certain amount of gutsy-ness.
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Re: Going out on your own.
« Reply #22 on: May 21, 2010, 05:03:14 AM »
When I'm traveling am always by myself. Never felt weird about being in a pub or resturant alone. Don't worry about it go out and have fun.


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