The other attitude that I don't understand is people telling me, 'well, you'll never actually be British will you?' It's not what they say but they say it in a 'you'll never be in the cool club' way. I don't get that attitude, so maybe I'm being overly sensitive, but it makes me feel like even my friends don't think I'll ever really belong here.
I'm sorry that has happened to you.
If it were me, I'd be inclined to launch into a brief educational response
for said ignorant individuals, with something like - 'I think the word you probably
meant to use was
English (Scottish/Welsh/Irish). You're right, I will
never be English. Being British is a different matter entirely, as I'm sure you
must know,
don't you?' And then smile sweetly.
Either that or laugh in their face and say something like - 'Ha ha! You should be so lucky, eh?'
It may be that I just don't tend to pay much attention to miscellaneous comments from the peanut gallery, or maybe I've been lucky - after my citizenship ceremony, my various workmates and other native British friends would say, 'You're one of us now.' It was nice - or maybe they just wanted me to pay for the next round...