Left Manchester...back in states...unbearably depressed.

Well just got back from Manchester yesterday...at work today.  I hate it.  I hate it here in the states and cannot stand it.  My fiance and I have had absolutely enough of being apart.  I cant stand the sight of anything anymore.  I dreaded coming back, I dont want to eat, or sleep, or do anything.

This last visit was only for 5 days, but it was different.  It was special.  It changed the way we view things...we realized that we have spent too much time apart.  I am a British citizen so things should be easy.  I should just be able to move over there and thats it.

So we are desperately thinking of ways I can come over and stay.  I would like to have a job waiting for me there, and have applied but no luck.  I think I would greatly increase my chances of getting one if i was over there.  Background:  my fiance lives with his mom, and no longer has a job (sucks) and is looking...so I am waiting on one of us to get a job, at which time we get a place.  Then the other continues the search.

At this point we just want to be together.  He and I are willing to take anything...he has been working with the Jobcentre...and we have been looking for places.  I told him I didnt care what the place was like...or how small etc...just as long as we both can live there together. Hopeless romantics we are.  We can work on getting a better place...bigger etc when we both work.  I am wanting to drop everything and rush over there.  Airplane tickets are extremely pricey and so is getting a place...even a cheap little one. 

I feel like my heart is being ripped out.  I NEED him, and he feels the same.  Its like we are waiting for the life we are supposed to have happen...waiting thats all we do. 

Does anyone have any suggestions?  Please help.  We need to be patient, but its unbearable.  I hate this.  Absolutely hate it.  It doesnt help that I adore Manchester, and miss it horribly.

Finding a job in Manchester is easier said than done, it seems, unless you're a health care professional. I arrived at the end of March and I'm still hunting for a job with little success.

Good luck with your searches, and I hope you get over here soon!

Hang in there Katrina.

Small words for such big emotions, I know, but it is all you can do. One day at a time and one minute at a time on really bad days.  I'm lucky in the sense that my husband and I were separated for no more than 2 months in between visits and he's been with me the last few months.  He is due to go back over August or September and then I will follow in a month or two.  I dread it but it is what it is and needs to be done.

All I can advise is that you have to look at the big picture of what you want it to be and what needs to be done to get there.  ON the hard days, you have to keep focused.

Sorry I can't say more to make you feel better.

Hey - I live near Manchester too.

Hope that you are all moved over by now.

How you and your husband found jobs yet? I work for a place that might be looking for people.
If you've both found jobs - I'm really pleased for you both!

Catherine