Hi Nicole,
My story is posted under this title "unmarried partner settlement visa refused - any thoughts?"
We were refused because we could not prove that we had been living together "akin to marriage". We had no hard evidence.
My partner and I met while working in Afghanistan. There is no mail, there are no leases, no council taxes, no real banks actually (so we kept our home country banks - no real need to join accounts), really nothing to show them as "hard evidence" of us living together. We also messed up by not putting my name on anything while I was in the UK for the past 6 months while on a visitor visa. We thought it was the right thing to do, but they questioned why my name wasnt on my partners lease, etc.
List of things we sent:
~10 letters from
both of our employers stating we were living together as a couple (in lieu of lease, etc)
letters from our chiropractor in Kabul and our counselor in Kabul
letters from a housemate and from friends that know us both
printouts from a friends blog with pictures of us at their events (Thanksgiving 2009 in Kabul, etc) as well as the web address so it could be verified.
a list of 15 references who were willing to vouch for us with names, emails, phone numbers, company and title
american express bill showing that i bought things for our apartment last fall
a printout from amazon.com showing that my billing address was my US address, but the delivery address was my UK address.
a confirmation email from a hotel we stayed at on holiday in Jan 10 with writing back and forth about pick ups at the airport, etc.
a magazine subscription from jan of this year at the address in the UK
pictures of commitment rings that we had made while in Kabul and emails back and forth with the folks that made the rings for us.
Photos on Facebook with the web address for more verifiable dates...
We literally sent them everything we could think of. It seems to have worked!
We also indexed both the original application and the appeal. We indexed, organized and sent a 5 page letter detailing our evidence and why we couldnt provide exactly what they were asking for and what we sent in lieu of.....
I think you can never send too much information when it comes to this process.
Good luck!