Is everyone sick of hearing *my* story yet? No? Good!
I answered Phil's ad for a pen pal in the March 1985 issue of Smash Hits. (I bought it for the lyrics to Tears for Fears' "Everybody Wants to Rule the World.")
Anyway - my first letter to him was 18 March 1985. He wrote back and we continued on in that manner until about 1987. We started up again in 1990, then again in 1991 for about a year.
He wrote me in 1999 after 7 years of no contact, and I cried when I saw the handwriting on the envelope in the postbox...happy tears!
I have loved him since 1985 - always knew it, just never figured he'd love me and thought his friendship was too precious to risk by trying a romance that might not work.
But both our situations were different in 1999 - and in 2001 we FINALLY met for the first time. He went to Florida and we spent 3 weeks together. Then I came to England in June and spent 2 weeks and back again in September. Supposed to stay just a few days - but my departure date was 12.9.01, so I was kind of forced to stay a little longer.
He came for Thanksgiving in November 2001, again in January/Feb 2002. We decided (tentatively) that the boys and I would be making the move, so I brought the boys over in May. They loved it! I came back by myself for a long weekend in June to find a town to live in, and the boys and I moved over in August/September 2002.
He proposed on 1st January 2003, we were married on 1st day of Spring, 21st March 2003, and I still have to pinch myself to remember that THIS is my REAL life - even on my worst days it's still too good to be true! He is my soulmate - and the only thing I regret is that it took us 15 years to figure it out.