Well, OK, here goes....
One Friday before a long weekend, my friend Daria and I were at her office. While I waited for her to finish up so we could go to the pub, I started messing around on a computer and pulled up kiss.com. "Hey, we should post profiles on this site" I somewhat kiddingly told her. I had found this particular site because it was UK-US friendly and I had pretty much decided that I was going to go to England to do my Master's degree at some point in the near future....
We went out for a few pints (or more) and ended up in front of the computer again some hours later, this time just liquored up enough to do the deed and post our profiles. But you had to pay to be able to get replies. And neither of us were even vaguely interested in that. So I hid my email address in the text of my profile and figured that if a guy wasn't clever enough to figure it out and get through to me, I wasn't interested. My profile was specific and vaguley demanding
as I figured that I'd messed about enough with guys who weren't quite right. So I listed my interests, said that I was only interested in honest, trustworthy, serious blokes - I was done serial dating. I wanted someone brave enough to answer what was a relatively intimidating profile....
I had a couple of responses but nothing too impressive. Then just when I was thinking that I was going to delete my profile... on 19 March, 2002... I got an email. And the first line was "As soon as I saw you, I knew you were the gal for me." Hmmm. Interesting.
So we started writing back and forth. Daily. Multiple times a day. Then instant messaging. Then... he dissapeared. Something I had written? I was crushed, but I wasn't about to act like it - afterall, I'd never even spoken to this bloke. So I sent two "where'd you go?" emails and then gave up.
A couple of weeks later he reappeared. He'd broken his leg playing footie and had been layed up in a cast and had been in too much pain and in too bad a mood to go online. And so the emailing started again. And then the phone calls. And I was begging for a photo (he didn't have a digital camera or a scanner and kept promissing to dig up a "real" photo but he's a notorious procrastinator....) After about a month of badgering him (he'd seen my photo from the get go - now it was only fair to reciprocate!!!) I went to my mail box and stood in the hallway of my apartment building, holding an envelope with shaking hands, scared to death to open it. I just stared at the handwriting for ages. Finally I opened it. Three blokes in the picture. Only one I would say was "my type." Oh PLEASE let it be.... I turned over the photo and read the caption. OH THANK GOD, he's gorgeous!
In May he said "I have to meet you." And within about a month I was picking him up at the San Francisco airport. We were both petrified, but as soon as we fell into each other's arms, I knew it was going to be fine and that this was different - it just felt different.
He volunteered to get a hotel, but I just had a hunch that it would be OK. And it was more than OK. It was 24 hours a day for 7 days of ease - never have I been able to or interested in spending that sort of time with someone (I'm big on alone time and independence) but it was lovely, fantastic, easy....
And now I have to say that I'm another one who doesn't have the wildly romantic thing going on - I've done "exciting" and "wildly romantic" and "intensely sexy" and "high drama" and it's always either fizzled out or gone out with a huge bang and become another failed relationship. But this one is just so easy and comfortable and secure. It's totally and completely different and totally and completely better. And I constantly think how lucky and happy I am to be with this guy and how completely in love I am with him....
Anyway, to wrap up this very long story, we spent the next year going back and forth (well, actually, because my schedule was more flexible, I was pretty much the one who did all the traveling!) and spent our one year anniversary in a lovely hotel in the Cotswolds in March, 2003. That September he came back to California, met my family, and I moved over on a student visa and we've lived together ever since.
Oh, and we're getting married ONE WEEK FROM TODAY!!!!