IA: My flatmate has been really getting on my nerves this week (it probably doesn't help that we work together too, so we're around each other most of the time.)
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She's generally okay, but sometimes things she does really bug me... like today, for example, at about 2 p.m. she suddenly informs me that 2 of her friends are coming to stay for the weekend. Now, I don't mind people coming to stay - that's fine by me, but it might have been nice for her to just mention it to me earlier... you know, more than 7 hours before they're due to arrive
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It's just little things like that, things she doesn't tell me that normally you might mention (especially if it might affect my plans slightly, such as adjusting what time I eat dinner so that the kitchen is free for them to cook later on), that have been bugging me a bit - I usually just mention in passing the things I'm going to be doing or people I'm going to be seeing in the near future, mostly just to make conversation really... but she'll arrange to visit her boyfriend for the weekend and not mention anything to me at all until an hour before she leaves, or I'll only find out about it when she tells someone else at work, and I'll just be sitting there wondering why she didn't have the courtesy to just mention it to me
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And speaking of work, sometimes I get the feeling that she seems to think she's better than all the rest of us, because she has a masters degree in our job field and we don't (whenever I query something, she always seems to reply as if it's obvious and I'm a bit slow for not getting it.... never mind that I think I got better exam results in our training course than she did
). We're just getting into the defence side of things (training to forecast for the military) and she keeps setting up 'secret' meetings with the managers (i.e. not telling the rest of us that she's meeting with them). Also, her body language has been implying (at least to me) that she thinks her assigned RAF base is the best one to train at (i.e our bases are inferior and so our training is going to be sub-standard to hers), and suddenly she's all 'chummy' with the training manager on her base (who is currently teaching our defence course), despite only knowing her for a week. I also get the feeling from her that she thinks I'm weak because I had a hard time adjusting to working on a military base on our 2-week observing training recently... but I've had no real contact with the military before and so I found the whole experience quite intimidating and a bit scary (in a few weeks I'm going to have to stand up in front of whole squadrons of helicopter pilots and brief them on the weather!).
We're all in the same boat here (at the same stage of our careers) and yeah, it's okay to be ambitious, but at the same time, there's different ways to go about it... at the moment it feels like she's going everyone's backs to get ahead, which I don't think is the best way to go about it, especially as we're all basically going to have the same sort of opportunities in our careers if we want to go for them. It's fine by me if she wants to be ambitious, but she doesn't have to be so secretive about it!
The good thing is that we're moving out of the flat in 3 weeks' time and going off to our different RAF bases for the next few months, so I won't really see her all that much
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Phew! Sorry about the rant, but it's been getting on my nerves all week
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